Damn you timezone....

[Unicorn26]

Ugh. Fed up.

Yesterday I barely spoke to my SO as I was busy when he woke, then at our normal speaking time (9pm my time, 3pm his time) he was on his way home to talk to me on FaceTime and his car broke down. He text me and I said no worries we can speak in a little while.

He text me again at 11.30pm saying he was really sorry, his sister in law and 2 nieces had come over to visit and he would text me again as soon as he could, and he loved me and missed me...

I fell asleep, woke this morning to see 3 messages from him, they didn't leave till 1am my time and he was pissed off. The other two were to tell me he was going to the pub to play pool and a sweet good morning text.

He's working the day shift today, which sucks again because I won't be able to communicate much with him again today. Tomorrow I am busy in the afternoon so I guess I will have to wait till Friday night.

I hate the timezone soooooo much! I know ours is doable but it still sucks. I just miss him that's all. We communicate loads, probably about 100 texts a day and have a voice call if we can too. I know that's a lot but that's just us. It does make the days when we can't speak so much much harder though. And I hate missing FaceTime.

Rant over.

[Hollandia]

Ugh. Fed up.

Yesterday I barely spoke to my SO as I was busy when he woke, then at our normal speaking time (9pm my time, 3pm his time) he was on his way home to talk to me on FaceTime and his car broke down. He text me and I said no worries we can speak in a little while.

He text me again at 11.30pm saying he was really sorry, his sister in law and 2 nieces had come over to visit and he would text me again as soon as he could, and he loved me and missed me...

I fell asleep, woke this morning to see 3 messages from him, they didn't leave till 1am my time and he was pissed off. The other two were to tell me he was going to the pub to play pool and a sweet good morning text.

He's working the day shift today, which sucks again because I won't be able to communicate much with him again today. Tomorrow I am busy in the afternoon so I guess I will have to wait till Friday night.

I hate the timezone soooooo much! I know ours is doable but it still sucks. I just miss him that's all. We communicate loads, probably about 100 texts a day and have a voice call if we can too. I know that's a lot but that's just us. It does make the days when we can't speak so much much harder though. And I hate missing FaceTime.

Rant over.

I used to have him Skpe IM me on my smartphone. That way if I was out running doing daily chores or riding my exercise back I could talk with him and still get my day to day stuff taken care of. I even use to "take him out with me" when I would go out to a bar to watch a game and make him a part of it by letting my friends chat with him too sometimes while we watched the game and hung out.

[Unicorn26]

I used to have him Skpe IM me on my smartphone. That way if I was out running doing daily chores or riding my exercise back I could talk with him and still get my day to day stuff taken care of. I even use to "take him out with me" when I would go out to a bar to watch a game and make him a part of it by letting my friends chat with him too sometimes while we watched the game and hung out.

Yes, he will do that too sometimes but we are both on contracts with limited data. FaceTime takes up masses of data when used without wifi, we both got stung with massive bills from this before so we tend to wait till we are at home.

I will just have to wait. It's rubbish but hey ho, that's LDR for you!

[Hollandia]

Yes, he will do that too sometimes but we are both on contracts with limited data. FaceTime takes up masses of data when used without wifi, we both got stung with massive bills from this before so we tend to wait till we are at home.

I will just have to wait. It's rubbish but hey ho, that's LDR for you!

Ahhhh, sorry to hear that. I do the Three unlimited data bundle, 300 min and 3000 texts a month on a pay as you go phone for 15 pounds a month. It only allows local calls on your mobile though.

[Petals]

Yeah add me to the timezone rant! 16hrs...I'm so over it!

[Unicorn26]

Ahhhh, sorry to hear that. I do the Three unlimited data bundle, 300 min and 3000 texts a month on a pay as you go phone for 15 pounds a month. It only allows local calls on your mobile though.

Thinking I'm going to go for this when my contract runs out.

[Hollandia]

Thinking I'm going to go for this when my contract runs out.

It works pretty good for me. I also pay 6.99 USD a month for unlimited calls to any phone in USA from my Skype premium package so I can call my family in USA on their cell and land lines as much as I want.

[LurkerEm]

We only have a three hour time difference so maybe I shouldn't be complaining, but it's amazing how much of a stressor that can be especially if your schedules don't align well in the first place. I'm the one in the ahead time zone, but I also stick to a very early sleep schedule (9 or 10pm-4 to 6am) while he usually sticks to a late schedule (5 to 9am-late afternoon my time). It's not uncommon for both of us to be awake the entire time the other is sleeping and vice versa, so there is sometimes 16+ hours we're unavailable right there. When these differences in schedules were at their worst, it actually led to a pretty big blowup after I got fed up. I think it's easier to say to somebody "Stay up a bit" than to ask for somebody to rearrange their entire sleep pattern to waking up much earlier and with him being the one in the later time zone, I don't think he always completely understands how frustrating the poorly aligned schedules can be.

[Unconditional]

We only have a two hour time difference, so we are lucky. However it's amazing how big of a difference it would make if there wasn't a tune difference, I can't imagine having a bigger one! Those of you who deal with more have my gratitude, you all go through so much.

[The_gentle_Hart]

We only have a three hour time difference so maybe I shouldn't be complaining, but it's amazing how much of a stressor that can be especially if your schedules don't align well in the first place. I'm the one in the ahead time zone, but I also stick to a very early sleep schedule (9 or 10pm-4 to 6am) while he usually sticks to a late schedule (5 to 9am-late afternoon my time). It's not uncommon for both of us to be awake the entire time the other is sleeping and vice versa, so there is sometimes 16+ hours we're unavailable right there. When these differences in schedules were at their worst, it actually led to a pretty big blowup after I got fed up. I think it's easier to say to somebody "Stay up a bit" than to ask for somebody to rearrange their entire sleep pattern to waking up much earlier and with him being the one in the later time zone, I don't think he always completely understands how frustrating the poorly aligned schedules can be.

Same! I'm the early one in our time difference, so it sucks waking up and having to wait. Usually by the time she's up, half my day is gone...and mornings are so lonely without her. :L But I'm sure she probably feels the same loneliness at night when I fall asleep. I guess the best thing is just to keep busy to pass the time :/

[Unicorn26]

I'm 6 hours ahead and sometimes it just really sucks!!!! My SO is getting over accute liver failure and suffers with fatigue and poor sleep so sometimes when he does sleep he will sleep for 12 hours. I'm always happy when he has a good long sleep as it means he's healing and will be well enough to visit but it drives me insane with the timezone!!! Quite often when I wake he will have just dropped off to sleep, like literally minutes before. He doesn't usually surface till 10.00 - 11.00 his time so that's 4-5pm here, it seems like a heck of a long time to wait when I last spoke to him at 10-11pm the night before. I dunno, just pisses me off I suppose! Drives me nuts that we are so right for each other but we are so far away. It's just not fair!!! Waaaaaaahhh!!! Lol!

[bubblehits]

Me and the SO have a 5 hour time difference, with me in front, getting ready for it to turn into a 6 when he moves to Louisiana at the end of the month. We struggle to find talking times with me working and having my family around. We message constantly but it's nice just to hear his voice.

It sucks as well when I visit him and then want to talk to my family back home and normally by the time we've got up and started our day my family is all busy and then in bed by the time I'm ready to chat.

Ughh

[Honour]

6 hours between me and my SO, but to be honest, we never even notice because we live in each other's lives so much in every way you can think of. (Well, almost).

[Dwessie]

Yeah add me to the timezone rant! 16hrs...I'm so over it!

YOU ARE A STRONGER PERSON THAN I EVER WILL BE. I have a 3 hour difference and it's ALREADY enough to be inconvenient!

[AussieAmericanGirl66]

Yeah add me to the timezone rant! 16hrs...I'm so over it!

In our case, he's 17 hours ahead of me. I have been living with two very different time zones for almost 5 years. Sometimes it is exhausting, because I stay up until he gets off work, so we can chat before bedtime, and go to sleep close to the same time as he does. It works because I am retired, except if something comes up during the morning or early afternoon. Sometimes I end up with only 4 hours of sleep, if I can't sleep til my "normal" time because of morning appointments, or unexpected visitors. Sometimes when I am completely wiped out, I end up sleeping the next day until sundown, and miss the whole day. There has to be a better way, but I haven't found it yet.