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    Out of the way at last... well partially!

    Having read the various threads and such on this forum that have popped up as of late concerning divulging the truth about relationships to parents and family, I decided to follow suit and finally plucked up the courage to be out with it and tell my mum about my relationship with my SO. It went down fairly well, surprisingly, and she didn't seem in the least bit surprised. I guess dropping hints and clues all over the place helped immensely She said that whilst she didn't fully agree with it, she was supportive of the matter and urged me to take my time as best I could. She was horrified when I told her I intended to fly over there in roughly a year and a bit's time, but once she heard my reasoning and listened to what I had to say (and, of course, lent me her opinion), she seemed a bit more comfortable over the fact. I suppose, being an older mum and due to the fact she grew up in a completely different time to me (60s and 70s mostly), she will have completely different views and beliefs. I'm just so grateful she's open-minded about all these sorts of things...

    I've yet to tell my dad, he's going to be the hardest to convince. He's extremely closed-minded, and stubborn, and set in his ways. But hopefully, with a bit of convincing from my mum and I, he'll come around. I really don't want any conflict in the family because of this. >_<
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    #2
    Congrats and good luck!

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      #3
      One down one to go. Congrats for the first step, good luck telling your dad.

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        #4
        That's awesome, congrats! I have yet to tell my parents, who knows how they're going to react. I've almost told them a few times now but I've chickened out each time. For now I'm still name dropping and throwing hints out here and there. It's so weird because they are okay with me having online friends but I've been so nervous to talk about me dating one of those friends, just not sure how they would react, much like you I've been gaining some courage here and there for some time now but I'm still not sure when it's going to happen lol good luck telling your dad and I hope all goes well!

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          #5
          Heh I don't think no matter what the age, revealing a ldr to our parents is always nerve wrecking, despite it being more and more common nowadays.

          Congrats on telling your mother~ Hopefully things will run smoothly with your father.


          Met online: 04.19.14
          Became a couple: 04.23.14
          First Visit: 08.09.14-08.15.14
          Second Visit: 12.17.14-12.28.14
          Third Visit: 02.13.15-02.15.15
          Fourth Visit: 04.03.15-04.06.15
          CLOSED THE DISTANCE/GOT MARRIED: 06.22.15/06.27.15

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            #6
            That's great! I'm glad she is being supportive and listening to you when you explain things to her. It's good that you were able to open up. Hopefully that will help when you tell your dad.

            I was raised in the 70's/80's. My daughters know they can come to me with anything. A lot of times, things they think they are telling me as a surprise I already know. I just like them to be able to tell me in their own time.
            To those who dream, nothing is ever far away.

            ​Distance is to love as wind is to fire. It blows out the little ones and fans the big ones.

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              #7
              Originally posted by R&R View Post
              That's great! I'm glad she is being supportive and listening to you when you explain things to her. It's good that you were able to open up. Hopefully that will help when you tell your dad.

              I was raised in the 70's/80's. My daughters know they can come to me with anything. A lot of times, things they think they are telling me as a surprise I already know. I just like them to be able to tell me in their own time.
              My mum knew and I hadn't even told her yet xD. My parents are both in their 60s, so in some aspects of personality, I suppose some might say they are quite old-fashioned and they're not quite sure about a lot of the things that happen in the world today. Things we today accept as normal, yet back then... it was taboo.

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                #8
                I'm so happy for you! You did it! It's awesome that your mum is willing to help you out. My mum too freaked out when I told her my intentions of going out there, but like yours, she understood my point.

                Good luck in telling your dad! All the best x

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                  #9
                  Good thing you got that courage together to do it, it paid off! You can be proud of yourself Hoping it goes just as well with your dad.

                  ~
                  It'll take a lot more than words and guns
                  A whole lot more than riches and muscle
                  The hands of the many must join as one
                  And together we'll cross the river

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                    #10
                    Good on you! And with knowing you have your Mums Support, I guess it will be easier to tell your Dad.
                    I'm not surprised she wasn't surprised. Mums have these superpowers where they just know things, even if you don't tell them.
                    And maybe your Dad will surprise you as well!
                    happiness can be found in the darkest of places, if only you remember to turn on the light

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