I don't know what to do

[douglas2275]

Valentines day is coming up and it will be my first one with Brittaney, or anyone really. I should be happy, I am with a woman I love and she loves me too. But with each passing day, and valentines day fast approaching, I am becoming more and more unstable, upset, and depressed.

I don't know what to do this valentines day, Brittaney has become my whole world but I don't know what to do. Our last skype call was this August and our last phone call was at the end of November. We keep in touch by daily texting, snapchat and an occasional email. We don't skype anymore because she no longer has a computer, and we have not talked on the phone in so long because neither of our families will permit each other to talk to each other (her family does not even know she has a phone and mine don't know we text).

I feel so far away from her, she won't let me mail her anything or do anything for her. My heart is breaking, what do I do?

[Redheart14]

Tough one. I'd say send her a pic seeing phone is your only option. Text her a poem or all the reasons you love her and send it to her on Valentine's day. At least it's something so she feels special on the day.

[merlinkitty]

Hey hun, stop stressing Valentines isn't going to make or break your relationship. If it does...well that's a conversation we can have at a later date. But first off, don't worry so much. What I do sometimes for special occasions is take pictures for him (we don't Skype or talk on the phone much either. Mailing stuff gets expensive too for me.) If you want, you could make her a card, find some flowers to take pictures of. Buy them, but keep them at your house "for her" and send her a picture of them. Last year I sent him a picture of some chocolates. Well the box at least, cause it was a little artsy fartsy but did it with stuff I knew he liked just so he knew I was thinking of him. It's the thought that counts

I would be remiss in mentioning I feel a little uncomfortable with the fact her parents (and yours too???) aren't allowing contact?? I don't know the reasons behind this, but it seems odd your parents aren't allowing it unless she's a minor?? Is that why you seem so desperate about trying to do something for her? I'm not wild about sneaking, so take care and be sensible

[douglas2275]

Thank you both, great ideas, I really appreciate it. As for the structure of my relationship, yes she is only 17 but that's not why our families don't approve. My blogs detail it more but basically my family does not like her because I met her online and her family does not even know about me because they do not approve of any relationship even after 18.

[Honour]

Thank you both, great ideas, I really appreciate it. As for the structure of my relationship, yes she is only 17 but that's not why our families don't approve. My blogs detail it more but basically my family does not like her because I met her online and her family does not even know about me because they do not approve of any relationship even after 18.

I'm really sorry you're in such a crappy situation. Can you send voice mails, or something similar? Not sure if you both use something like Whatsapp, but they have voice recording options on there to send short messages. Thoughts with ya.

[douglas2275]

Yes, we both have voice mail and I actually left one for her yesterday. I have been trying to get her to leave more for me but I don't want to sound demanding either. My voice-mail that I left for her actually led to some interesting conversations. I guess because we talk on the phone so little, she did not realize the extent of my love for her. It really confused me but it is good to know we are on the right track again.