Hey, guys!
So, my boyfriend and I have been together for well over a year now. We are so beyond in love and it couldn't be more perfect! However, he is five years older than me (i'm 17 and he's 21), so he has more history than I do by far. When we began talking, he was dating this girl (lets call her Jane). We were ONLY friends and nothing else while he was with her, even though we knew we had feelings for each other. (Not like we could even be anything else since we were separated by an ocean, but we wouldn't have snuck around while he was with her even if we did live in the same country!)
Long story short, after almost two years of being really unhappy and only using each other as a bounce-back, they decided to break up. He and I got together soon after and Jane even got back with one of her ex's (lets call him Joe). I've been with my boyfriend for well over a year and Jane has been with Joe for just short of a year. I admit, I do creep on Jane's twitter every once in awhile simply because she's super dramatic and it's kind of entertaining. (I know that's bad to say, don't judge!) Well, Jane likes to bad mouth my boyfriend a LOT on twitter. It can get REALLY bad, and he knows nothing of it since he doesn't know that I know her twitter. He has tried to keep my name and everything about me away from anyone that would tell her and her boyfriend about me. However, my boyfriend's best friends (they're a couple in their 30's) are still close with Jane (Joe is the woman's nephew) and the couple may have let something slip about me. (I'm good friends with them, so it was for sure an accident if it was them.) Basically, my boyfriend visited me for 3 months in America over the holidays, and Jane found out through the couple most likely. Now, Jane knows a bit about me and is ranting like crazy on twitter and is saying some VERY hurtful things about my boyfriend and I.
I refuse to get involved with Jane personally (even though I do want to respond to her tweets and set her straight), but I feel so sick letting this be said behind my dear boyfriend's back. He doesn't deserve any of what she is saying about him because he is the sweetest, most gentle man I have ever met. He makes me feel so wonderful and I just want to protect him just as he wants to protect me.
Also, Jane and Joe are trying to find me on the internet, and they will for sure harass me. I need advice! Should I tell him what happened so that he can figure out who told? (I don't want to cause a fall-out with his friends, though. They've done so much for him and have basically been his mother and father figure and I am so grateful for how much they've helped him) Do you think that she is secretly jealous considering she is still bothered about my boyfriend even though she is with someone else?
I'm so sorry if this is confusing! I just need help!!! Thanks in advance!!! xoxo
So, my boyfriend and I have been together for well over a year now. We are so beyond in love and it couldn't be more perfect! However, he is five years older than me (i'm 17 and he's 21), so he has more history than I do by far. When we began talking, he was dating this girl (lets call her Jane). We were ONLY friends and nothing else while he was with her, even though we knew we had feelings for each other. (Not like we could even be anything else since we were separated by an ocean, but we wouldn't have snuck around while he was with her even if we did live in the same country!)
Long story short, after almost two years of being really unhappy and only using each other as a bounce-back, they decided to break up. He and I got together soon after and Jane even got back with one of her ex's (lets call him Joe). I've been with my boyfriend for well over a year and Jane has been with Joe for just short of a year. I admit, I do creep on Jane's twitter every once in awhile simply because she's super dramatic and it's kind of entertaining. (I know that's bad to say, don't judge!) Well, Jane likes to bad mouth my boyfriend a LOT on twitter. It can get REALLY bad, and he knows nothing of it since he doesn't know that I know her twitter. He has tried to keep my name and everything about me away from anyone that would tell her and her boyfriend about me. However, my boyfriend's best friends (they're a couple in their 30's) are still close with Jane (Joe is the woman's nephew) and the couple may have let something slip about me. (I'm good friends with them, so it was for sure an accident if it was them.) Basically, my boyfriend visited me for 3 months in America over the holidays, and Jane found out through the couple most likely. Now, Jane knows a bit about me and is ranting like crazy on twitter and is saying some VERY hurtful things about my boyfriend and I.
I refuse to get involved with Jane personally (even though I do want to respond to her tweets and set her straight), but I feel so sick letting this be said behind my dear boyfriend's back. He doesn't deserve any of what she is saying about him because he is the sweetest, most gentle man I have ever met. He makes me feel so wonderful and I just want to protect him just as he wants to protect me.
Also, Jane and Joe are trying to find me on the internet, and they will for sure harass me. I need advice! Should I tell him what happened so that he can figure out who told? (I don't want to cause a fall-out with his friends, though. They've done so much for him and have basically been his mother and father figure and I am so grateful for how much they've helped him) Do you think that she is secretly jealous considering she is still bothered about my boyfriend even though she is with someone else?
I'm so sorry if this is confusing! I just need help!!! Thanks in advance!!! xoxo
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