Should I stay patient with her?

[Robinant2]

I met this girl online an we hit it off really well. We love 4 hours apart and we've been talking for 4 almost 5 months now. Her past relationship the guy was abusive and a cheater an he lived close by. She asked me if I was seeing anyone else im not she even said she doesn't want anyone else just me. I've set up 2 dates but she cancelled on 2 of them. She apologized dearly the first time was cuz her sister came to visit early which was legitimate and the second time was for her brother's bday party which was also legit. I really like her and she said she didn't want me talking to anyone else and she doesn't wanna see anyone else either and she said she is on the same page as me trying to start a romantic relationship but I feel it's me that's getting impatient and I wanna meet her already should I be more patient or at least talk on the phone with her cuz I don't wanna quit on her at all?

[Miasmata]

If you have never talked on the phone/Skype before, that should definitely happen. If you think she's worth the wait and you yourself said that the previous cancellations were legit, give her another chance. Make sure you communicate plenty and know that you're both on the same page. Others here don't meet for many months, even years, and it works out because they're both on the same page. Make sure you two are as well.

[Robinant2]

Thanks and congrats on your LDR it seems more common these days but I feel if I quit now I'll regret it later. she isn't at the point of wanting to move the relationship further along like I am but she said she's not there yet and I don't mind waiting but I can be impatient at times but we had a discussion about this a couple days ago an she said I just need to relax and not over think everything an we don't have to validate what we have going on every day

[merlinkitty]

we had a discussion about this a couple days ago an she said I just need to relax and not over think everything an we don't have to validate what we have going on every day

I agree with this here. I've had the same conversation with my SO. He told me to slow down, we'll get there when we get there. I've got the age factor issue too. At 34 I'm ready to speed things up. But since I've slowed down I've actually been able to relax and enjoy the ride (for the most part lol - I still get impatient from time to time). It's natural though. When you fall in love you wanna just let go and risk hitting the floor with it. The thing I've found by slowing down is the fall is more like a fluffy pillow. That sounds silly, well it does to me reading it lol but it's still true. Now that I know him better, I trust where my emotions are leading me better

[Robinant2]

Lol that's great I love hearing about love that blossoms the old fashion way instead of how the new generation thinks it should. I flew off the deep end I guess cuz I can't see her everyday for reassurance. I went on like yahoo answers asking if I should wait an they all obviously say move on but the little voice in my head says "stay she's worth it" and she has interpersonal and depression issues which in the past I ran but I wanna wait an work with her cuz under the scars theres so much beauty of I went blind and seeing her face was the last thing I saw would bring me so much joy

[merlinkitty]

Lol that's great I love hearing about love that blossoms the old fashion way instead of how the new generation thinks it should. I flew off the deep end I guess cuz I can't see her everyday for reassurance. I went on like yahoo answers asking if I should wait an they all obviously say move on but the little voice in my head says "stay she's worth it" and she has interpersonal and depression issues which in the past I ran but I wanna wait an work with her cuz under the scars theres so much beauty of I went blind and seeing her face was the last thing I saw would bring me so much joy

Well, you know I think we're all flawed in our own way. So long as we're on a path of personal development and dealing with our old baggage, we can move forward into wonderful and fulfilling relationships. The thing that I really appreciate about this LDR business is how it's forcing me to take things slowly where in the past I've not. It feels much more purposeful and considered than impulsive

[abna1]

It sounds like you two are on the right track. Unfortunately, patience is a big part of LDRs. Whether it's waiting for the first visit, between visits or figuring out how to close the distance for good. But don't worry, just keep the communication going and it will all happen in it's own time. If both of you want it to work out, it's definitely worth the wait.

[Robinant2]

You guys are very right communicating is a huge downside to me as a mate and at 25 I realize that even with my own family im a closed book but she gives me a platform to share I guess I can take the initiative and call her instead of texting cuz texting to me gets old sometimes