entertaining him

[Kika]

Solved.

[Rosebud]

Sorry, I'm not really sure what it's your responsibility to keep him entertained? Or perhaps I'm interpreting things wrong.

Anyway, if you need some ideas of things to do go to the Home page of this website, there's a huge long list of things you guys can do together online or through the mail! There's also a book that's good for phone conversations but I'm sure that you can use for online conversations as well that basically has dozens of topics for you guys to discuss about yourself, your beliefs and your future.

If he doesn't have any other hobbies you really can't force him to go out and get one, but why not ask him about hockey? Is he passionate about it? Maybe you could pick up a bit about the game so you two could have more in depth conversations. Or simply keep yourself busy with other hobbies and talk about that with him. Perhaps he'll even find it interesting himself and want to pick it up as well, and that could be an awesome thing to bond over.

Also, some couples find that going longer periods without talking really help them out. So instead of talking on webcam daily, how about once every three days? It might give you both some time to go out, live your lives and then have some interesting things to talk about when you're back together again.

[LadyMarchHare]

Sounds like your conversation is stale. It's not your responsibility to be the court jester to his king, dear. If he's so bored he's relying on one person for relief, he needs to go out and join clubs or a gym or do something outside and make friends to hang out with too. I know I don't have a job or any CD friends to hang out with, but I keep myself busy when my SO isn't here or even when he is.

Rosebud made a good suggestion, try not talking so often, do things inbetween to have something TO talk about, or there's a book LFAD advertises that's useful for when you can't think of what to talk about.

[TristenLove]

We have that problem too. If I try to talk about work, he gets upset because I hang out with guys (all the women in my office don't like me. It may sound conceited, but it's because I'm prettier than them). But when I ask what he's been up I always get the same ansewer "not much"

It's maddening

[noodle]

I dont know I always find things to talk about with my SO O_o
Sometimes we just cam and dont talk for an hour or somethin cause we're doin our stuff (hmwrk/Facebook/internet).
Sometimes we would just talk about random things that one of us would pop up. Or we just meep at each other for ages xD
Just talk whatever you feel like sayin... it doesnt matter if its super stupid or not. I dont know I usually when I see my SO have the urge to ramble on lol

[Kika]

It was my fault that I wrote I want to entertain him. He is playing his games when Im not there, chatting on the internet and he will soon join the gym. He had things to do, but we cant talk about them, I cant ask him how many creatures he killed today I know a lot about hockey already.

The thing is that we are dating for a few months and I know just 2 friends of his (they were all gone during the summer). We spent plenty of time together becuase we knew since beginning that it's going to be long distance relationship. He doesnt know any of my friends, therefore the only topic to talk about is our future and so on. I feel weird to talk about my friends he doesnt know, but probably I should do that - he is part of my life as well as they are and eventually he will meet them. What do you think? It's all new to me

Thanks and sorry for my english.

[Zephii]

It doesn't matter if you don't know each other's friends! Talk about them anyway, hell, send photos too so he has a face to go with the name. Tell him all about them and ask him to tell you more about his friends. Friends are a big part of your lives, so share it. Contry to popular belief, guys gossip too.

If you can think of it, you can talk about it!

[maielle]

Sometimes me and my SO also run out of topics. But usually we just babble about stuff (anything: my plans, dreams, friends, studies, news, how much I love him, his day, our travel plans, European Union directives... Just anything) so that we don't very often run out of topics. Don't be afraid to talk about something. You should be able to discuss any topic with him.

But when we do feel like we're just talking the same stuff, we usually have a break and talk again later. I feel it's better to spend more quality time then just stare each other. Even though there's nothing wrong with just staring. When we'll live together we will have enough time just being in the same room but not actually doing something together.

On the list at the main site are a loooot of things you can try. You should check it out!

[mynameiseric]

from a guy's opinion...it is not YOUR job to keep him "entertained". Both of you need to talk to each other equally and what not. Something you could do to "spice it up" is to maybe take some pictures for him? I know that when my girlfriend does that for me, I absolutely LOVEEEE them. Leave him videos on facebook, write each other letters, send care packages and so on. both of you need to make the effort though, its not ALL on you. just a couple ideas

[Kika]

Thank you all, you are so nice

I have a list of things I want to do such as these photos, or a box of cookies with a letter - but it's our first week in LDR and I don't want to do everything so early.

I really thing that the problem is that nothing's happening. Before we both had work about which we could talk. Gosh I cant wait till my school starts!

Eric, I have a question for you, hope it's not too personal: what kind of pictures do you like the most? I would really like to do something like that, thanks!

[Butterfly-x]

Uhm, i believe theres a ''1000 Questions for couples'' book out there? It's on LFAD's home page That could lighten things up a bit and you ll both get to know things about each other that you didnt think you knew before
I dont know if you guys watch movies and stuff but i find that by watching a movie now and again, playing some games together or looking up some interesting trivia to share with each other, you can keep the conversation flowing!

Just my 2 cents if its any good to you

[mynameiseric]

nothing is too person for me hah well...she sends me regular pictures, and "naughty" ones. my favorite one is of her in her bra and underwear posing making me pancakes, not too much but I absolutely LOVE the picture. I just love seeing her, even though I always see her on skype, I just love seeing pictures of her