Am I being irrational?

[TheSteelAngel]

Not sure if anyone is interested or not but for me, everything pretty much has gone down to shit.

Last I heard from her was last Saturday "I need time to think about everything." I wrote her Thursday with an apology and explained the reason why I acted the way I did. She never 'read' it yet on whatsapp. It has been delivered, but not read so I am wondering if she just deleted it without reading it. She is ignoring me and still seems far from talking to me.

I am leaving on vacation tomorrow and wanted things resolved by then. I am getting the idea that her and I won't be friends anymore. It just sucks because in my eyes it seems like a childish reason for a friendship to end. Not sure if it was my fault either. Maybe I was clingy/annoying. Everything is all up to her now.

thank you everyone who helped me out. I appreciate it.

I'm really sorry to hear that. And that is really childish of her to do that. The least she could do is offer you an explanation, but I guess that's just way too hard for some people to do.

[p_b82]

being 'ghosted' is never fun - but at least you have got answers one way or the other.

Don't write her off just yet - but if you don't hear back in a another week or so, then it does sound fairly terminal... Hope you have a good holiday tho!

[differentcountries]

Not sure if anyone is interested or not but for me, everything pretty much has gone down to shit.

Last I heard from her was last Saturday "I need time to think about everything." I wrote her Thursday with an apology and explained the reason why I acted the way I did. She never 'read' it yet on whatsapp. It has been delivered, but not read so I am wondering if she just deleted it without reading it. She is ignoring me and still seems far from talking to me.

I am leaving on vacation tomorrow and wanted things resolved by then. I am getting the idea that her and I won't be friends anymore. It just sucks because in my eyes it seems like a childish reason for a friendship to end. Not sure if it was my fault either. Maybe I was clingy/annoying. Everything is all up to her now.

thank you everyone who helped me out. I appreciate it.

Love is a bit childish at times. It is not nice of her to ignore you, but at least the message is pretty clear. Hope your vacation is fun, maybe it will take your mind off things.

[pepperfairy]

Sorry I didn't read all the comments :/ hope I'm not repeating things..
I don't know her or you... but sometimes in my experience females can shy away from video calls.. Because they might think the guy is after something if you catch my drift.. so maybe start by reassuring her that you guys will have a nice clean chat.
I'm not saying she does think this.. as like I said I don't know you guys.. but it's a possible reason..
you should tell her shte doesn't need to turn her cam on.. you guys can just chat using skype no cams. Then if she starts to warm up during the conversation ask her if it's ok for you to put your cam on.. then hopefully after she watches you an you guys chat she might turn hers on. Or even just ask her again.

[1991md]

Hey everyone and thanks again for all your words.

So far it has been 3 weeks I think since she said she needs to think about everything.

I Still got nothing from her. I will probably write her Wednesday and ask if everything is alright, and if we can talk about things.

3 weeks of ignoring is a long time. More than likely I will get nothing and just feel stupid.

Only thing I can think of is she doesn't see me more than a friend and just stopped talking to me. Or is focusing on her life/helping her friend.

[1991md]

So I gave it a shot and wrote her today.

Simple message - "Haven't heard from you in a while, hope everything is ok."

No reply and got ignored again both on whatsapp and on facebook.

Even if she hasn't said anything, her actions have. I believe it is almost 4 weeks when she said she needed space. I only wrote her twice since then, including today. (and accidently phoning her on whatsapp the day after she needed space >.<)

I am not one to fight for attention and she seems to not want to be bothered. Sadly, I am going to just delete all of our convos and move on. I tried. Not much more to really do.

Still very childish and a lame way to end a friendship, but how i look at it is if we really were friends we would be talking by now. Just a simple miscommunication issue and all this shit happened.

Thank you everyone - I appreciate all of your guys' help. And thanks for letting me vent!

All the best to all of you! Not sure how helpful advice i give, but i will keep in touch in the forums.

[1991md]

Its been a while since i wrote into this but i have something i could add and share.

Its been a long time since her and I have talked. I see she still uses whatsapp/facebook, and hasn't written me. She knows how to contact me, and i would rather she be the one to write me than vice versa. It seems like a 1 sided friendship anyway.

I am still upset and dissapointed how she handled things, and i don't want to add anymore "drama" or look childish myself. Since she loves horses I sent her a photo of some that ran by me while driving.

If she were to reply I was going to just ask her if we should keep each other added or not. I mean, she isn't talking and if she doesn't want me as a friend i could go ahead and delete her. It does bother me now, and there is an awkwardness to it. But I think this is too forceful. Not sure what my deal is but just today i've gotten this sad ill feeling. She has seemed a bit distant anyway even before hand, but i would just kinda like to know whats the deal. you know?

Any ideas as to what I should do? Or just leave my mouth shut and if she replies to the photo she replies. I expect some sort of an apology from her too, but i don't want to add anymore drama to what has already happened.

I was planning on being cold anyway and not talking much, but a friend of mine told me that I should ask whether she gives a damn or not. So it just got me thinking. I just hate to be so clingy, and more than likely it will just cause more shit. After us not talking i was planning on just trying to move on and be cold since she was very disrespectful to me anyway. Just for some reason i got to thinking about her again since a few weeks.

[TheSteelAngel]

My advice to you is stop trying to get her to answer. By not replying she has already made up her mind that she is not interested in talking to you anymore and has moved on. I know this sounds harsh, but you really should give up on her.

This situation has happened to my SO with the girl he was interested in before me. She just stopped talking to him and he didn't get why, so he kept asking her and emailing her and whatnot and that just made her angry. She did reply eventually and it was just to tell him to "stop harassing" her and that she "wasn't interested in talking" with him anymore and to "fuck off". Idk if your friend is anything like this girl, but what she is doing sounds pretty similar.

[1991md]

You are right and that was my original plan. Her and I haven't really spoken in over a month. We never dated or anything. I just think she has a lot going on and maybe I pushed her buttons too much. Doesn't exactly mean you should stop talking to a friend either which is why I figured I could stand my ground or fight for my respect.

Anyway, I probably won't say anything childish like if she wants she can delete me. I might just leave it up to what she says with the photo. It's been the first time I've felt these feelings in a few weeks, and it could just be me having a lot on my mind and being tired.

I don't think it would be cool to delete her either. But I might just delete her number or at least our whatsapp chat. I just noticed today she changed her photo which is what got me thinking about her again.