Need urgent advice with my long distance relationship :(

[Rogertwo]

Hi guys, this is my first post here so i appologise for any mistakes i make regarding forums rules (if any)

I have been dating my girlfriend for more than half a year now and things are beginning to get stale... which worries me. We spend pretty much all day on skype right now as we both are off school due to the easter break and i am finding it difficult to keep things fun and interesting.

We spend a lot of our time gaming together which is fun but she has a tendancy to get mad at me over little things now and it worries me.

Now recently, she has told me that i don't make her wet when she tries to have an orgasm which is very worrying to me because i am scared she will get bored of me and try with someone else, she wants me to be myself instead of trying to talk dirty with her as she thinks that is not my personallity.

I am finding it difficult to know what to say to her, i am a virgin myself so i do not have any experience of talking to her in sexual ways, i am really improvising here and it is hard.

I am going to visit her in two months so i really want to get through this difficult patch of our relationship and make things really good in the summer.

Any tips or advice would really help me here i would appreciate it hugely, i will do anything to make our relationship exciting in the daytime and at night when we try to talk sexually to each other to help each other reach our climaxes.

Thank you for reading my post.

[differentcountries]

There are lots of ways to talk about sex. It is not just your responsability to entice her, or to develop your sexual lingo.

[Rogertwo]

Thanks for the reply, i just feel a lot of pressure on myself right now :/

[Ella85]

I think there are some issues your going to have to work though with your girlfriend. The fact she is saying that this early on in my opinion is kinda harsh. I guess you can see it as at least she is being honest. But just wow. I have never had this issue so it's hard to advise on that part. But as for spending a lot of time together, sometimes people just don't have stuff to talk about. It's not an issue it's how you deal with it. My boyfriend and I play games together and we don't sit there speaking constantly the whole time, but I can hear him on the other end of skype and we chat back and forth about the game.

Being comfortable with silence is a sign of progression in the relationship. Yeah we talk a lot, but at the same time I feel like we're comfortable with not talking when we are on the phone or on skype too. It's just that 'he's there' feeling which is nice. But I have physically met my boyfriend so I guess in that sense I am feeling a little more comfortable with something that is perfectly natural in close distance relationships.

I hope you can take something from my advice.

[Rogertwo]

Thanks ella, any advice is good to me

[Irina_Linn]

Half a year is quite a long time for not meeting each other.From my experience I can say it's ok to start being less excited about sex and your partner in LDR.I'd recommend that you stop trying too hard.Be yourself.Ask her what turns her on.And don't think about sexual part of relationship only.Be creative and try doing something new in general,not in terms of sex only.

[Kapwned]

Half a year is not a long time. Lots of long distance couples wait longer than that.

Just be honest with her and tell her what you've told us. You're a virgin, you don't have a lot of experience to go off of in terms of verbalizing your desires and the things you'd like to do with her. And you're starting to feel pressured. It's not for a lack of desire, and she should at least give you some respect for that. Have a back bone, it sounds like you're letting her walk all over you. Don't let her take you for granted. Relationships are multifaceted, and if she is honestly concerned about her sex life while in a LDR then maybe she's in it for the wrong reasons.

[snow]

First of all you should appreciate that your SO is telling you what doesn't work for her. As much as it sucks to hear that, it is not something that a lot of people feel comfortable with. Then breathe and try something else. Talking dirty does not have to be extreme, say what you can't wait to do with her and let it go from there.