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    #31
    I may get some flack for this but I'm still going with he is a Police Officer and you have got to cut him slack. As he told you, something happened at work and he's trying to deal with it. He also said he couldn't tell you what it's about, so you have no clue how deep or intense this could be.

    Yes, it would be nice to think that he should text back when you text him. Yes, I understand that he has time in the car or when he is unwinding. However, he is apparently dealing with something pretty heavy right now. He didn't intentionally do anything to hurt you by not texting. As I've said before, being the SO or family of a police officer, you have to take a backseat sometimes. Communication is important but he shouldn't have to worry that if he doesn't get in touch because he's dealing with something extremely important, sensitive, time-consuming, critical, etc at work that you are going to be at home stressing out. Make sure that you are on his emergency contact list so that if something is wrong, you are contacted. This way, you won't have to worry so much because you will be contacted if there is something drastically wrong.
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      #32
      Originally posted by R&R View Post
      I may get some flack for this but I'm still going with he is a Police Officer and you have got to cut him slack. As he told you, something happened at work and he's trying to deal with it. He also said he couldn't tell you what it's about, so you have no clue how deep or intense this could be.

      Yes, it would be nice to think that he should text back when you text him. Yes, I understand that he has time in the car or when he is unwinding. However, he is apparently dealing with something pretty heavy right now. He didn't intentionally do anything to hurt you by not texting. As I've said before, being the SO or family of a police officer, you have to take a backseat sometimes. Communication is important but he shouldn't have to worry that if he doesn't get in touch because he's dealing with something extremely important, sensitive, time-consuming, critical, etc at work that you are going to be at home stressing out. Make sure that you are on his emergency contact list so that if something is wrong, you are contacted. This way, you won't have to worry so much because you will be contacted if there is something drastically wrong.
      While this may be true, 4 days though? Really? 4 days of ignoring her completely and shutting her out? In my opinion there is a difference here. I understand that you grew up in a family with LEO's, but the difference is you lived with them. She doesn't. She's close to 800 miles away, and like I said, understanding that he is a police officer, it doesn't change the fact that she literally had no way of knowing anything. If he was okay, hurt, in the hospital. None. She has no contacts in Philly, other than her SO. That's why I feel it's not really acceptable what he did. He needs to understand that, big time. She already had been stressing about other personal things and then comes to find that her BF is MIA and ignoring all of her messages. I really don't think it's okay to ignore someone like that, who's sincerely worried and scared, for as long as he did. A day or two, I understand, but it was basically 4 days of nothing. 4 days of complete and utter silence from him.
      Last edited by whatruckus; May 7, 2015, 08:45 PM.

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        #33
        Originally posted by whatruckus View Post
        While this may be true, 4 days though? Really? 4 days of ignoring her completely and shutting her out?
        Depending on what he does with the police department, not unrealistic. And we still don't know what happened at work and he's not talking about it so it must have been pretty bad. And I wouldn't say shutting her out - just dealing with things that may have been more of a priority at the time.

        Because she is so far away, that's why I suggested that she be put on an emergency contact list so if it it something critical, she will be contacted.
        Last edited by R&R; May 7, 2015, 08:45 PM.
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        ​Distance is to love as wind is to fire. It blows out the little ones and fans the big ones.

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          #34
          Originally posted by R&R View Post
          Depending on what he does with the police department, not unrealistic. And we still don't know what happened at work and he's not talking about it so it must have been pretty bad. And I wouldn't say shutting her out - just dealing with things that may have been more of a priority at the time.

          Because she is so far away, that's why I suggested that she be put on an emergency contact list so if it it something critical, she will be contacted.
          From what she told me, he's been currently on desk duty because of being injured. And, seeing as her SO hasn't even told his family about her yet, and won't, until they meet, I doubt he'd put her on his emergency contact list for a while. I'm not saying what you said is invalid, and that you have no point, but the LEAST he could've done was just tell her he was okay. Literally not even a 2 second text, just so she wouldn't blow up his phone the way she did.

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            #35
            Yes, he probably could have sent a quick text but apparently that wasn't his priority with what was going on. It's definitely something that they are going to have to figure out. It's going to be a lot of compromise from both parties to be able to make it work.
            To those who dream, nothing is ever far away.

            ​Distance is to love as wind is to fire. It blows out the little ones and fans the big ones.

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              #36
              Either way, they need to have some sort of discussion on how to handle a situation like this better. Whether she has ways to contact people he knows, or he puts her on his emergency list. They definitely need a better system.

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                #37
                Originally posted by whatruckus View Post
                Either way, they need to have some sort of discussion on how to handle a situation like this better. Whether she has ways to contact people he knows, or he puts her on his emergency list. They definitely need a better system.
                ^^ This is a total yes. I really want to talk about things with him but the problem is when haha. While I'd rather do it now to get it over with I plan on leaving him alone for a couple of days to get his head cleared up. He needs to know what everyone has said on here and I plan on having a nice long discussion about it.

                Also I need to know what his definition of "ignoring" me is. In his text and other times that he's done this he said that he wasn't ignoring me. I guess not answering my texts don't count as ignoring to him even though it clearly does. He's rather interesting, I'll give ya that haha.
                Last edited by TheSteelAngel; May 7, 2015, 09:07 PM.

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                  #38
                  If your SO has access to some form of communication (phone, internet, computer, ect. Not broken for example), 4 days is a long time to not respond with a quick, "Hi, sorry but I'm dealing with things right now and can't talk. Will let you know when I can". It is the considerate thing to do that literally takes less than a minute, if only to stop you from worrying.

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