How to make it work

[Ryan.dyess]

I'm 18 and live in Alabama and my gf is 16 and lives in Georgia an we been dating for a month and talked for 3 months and we hit a stumbling block it is getting to her she says it is going to get worser but I told her every relationship needs work just this one Alil more and I told her I was going to fight for us . So what should I and Us do and do you think we can make it work with me coming twice a month

[Noodle]

Well what exactly has she expressed getting to her? The distance?

[whatruckus]

Dating only a month and already having problems like this? Sounds fishy.

[Ryan.dyess]

Yeah she said the distance she said she didn't think it would be this bad she said she wants it to work it just getting too her to much

[R&R]

You two are very young. I'm not saying it can't work at your ages but it's definitely a lot harder when you don't have the freedom and independence. Some people also just aren't cut out for a LDR. If she is one of them, you have to respect her choice. I'd suggest have a serious discussion and if she really feels that she can't do it, then it's time to end the relationship and move forward with your life.

[Kapwned]

If she is struggling already then she may not be ready for this kind of relationship. LDRs just like any relationship need a lot of work and then some. You have to have a lot of more trust and faith in the person you're with. You have to set aside certain desires for the sake of your connection with the person. And you guys are young. She may not be at a point where she wants to put a lot of work and effort into a relationship. A lot of young people are like that and with time she will get there.

[Harlequin]

I'm essentially parroting what everyone else has said, but it sounds like a long distance relationship might be too hard for her to handle, which happens and is fine. Long distance can be an awful lot to handle at 16--she probably doesn't even really know what she wants from a close distance relationship. There's also the chance of something like her parents wouldn't be approving of it, and she's aware of this, which is freaking her out a little.
Definitely have a serious discussion with her and hear her out. If she's sure she can't handle it, then let the relationship go. Remain friends if you want, but I personally wouldn't waste the energy fighting for a relationship that's falling apart after a month. Sometimes you're just not compatible, and that's okay. It happens.

[differentcountries]

I'm 18 and live in Alabama and my gf is 16 and lives in Georgia an we been dating for a month and talked for 3 months and we hit a stumbling block it is getting to her she says it is going to get worser but I told her every relationship needs work just this one Alil more and I told her I was going to fight for us . So what should I and Us do and do you think we can make it work with me coming twice a month

So what happened was, you visited once, it was great, you visited once, it felt awful? Very normal dynamics for long distance relationships. It will not get worse, in fact you will get into a routine.

[Happygirl123]

its important to both be realistic about the challenges ahead of you. if she is not, then perhaps she isnt cut out for an ldr. thats ok, not everyone is. however if you're worried about you guys spending time with each other and creating a bond, and being challenged by distance, remember: love knows no distance! so just make sure both of your lives are on track and heads are in the right places, and if you're both going into this with full knowledge (or as much as is foreseeable) and dedication, of course it can work.