in love with my ex

[Telekinesis245]

I got a divorce from my ex-husband last year. He treated me like crap and when I was down and out he was not there for me. He stated that he would not bstart a new relationship but he did with a different race in which he also said that he wouldn't do. She was locked up for a while and created two Facebook pages. One with her and the other one states she's single. He has been calling and texting me and even came by my house. He stated that he was not going to leave her side when she gets out in June like I did him. But I never left his side. I haver been corresponding with someone that is behind bars and he helped me through the bad times but he expects so much from me. He wants to get married and I have not been able to write him lately. I feel there is a lot of things that went unsaid but my ex won't stay around to hear them. I want to stop these feelings. Can someone help.

[snow_girl]

You need to cut contact.

[Dezface]

I think you have a whole lot going on. You and your ex are both dating prisoners? Am I reading it right that the ex was also locked up at one point? I think you need to stay away from the ex for sure, and be very careful with the new guy.

[Ella85]

I agree, cut ties and I'd be careful with the new guy.

[Blanca]

I don't understand why you're still in love with him if he treated you like crap. I think you should get rid of him for good and move on with your life.

[TaraMarie]

Sounds to me that you need some time alone to get your life together.

[Miasmata]

Sounds to me that you need some time alone to get your life together.

This is my impression too. If you are that uncertain of your feelings, needs and whatnot, I think your focus on what others say or want from you is misplaced. It's not fun, but I think you could do with slowing down and practicing introspective. Being alone can be scary, but at least from what you said, it doesn't seem like the relationships you got going or had going are doing you any good. Give yourself time!

[whatruckus]

Yea, I agree with everyone else. And, no offense, I don't know how old you are, but you need to get your shit together before you can be with ANYONE. I honestly don't think it's smart to be corresponding with someone from prison (not saying he's a bad person), especially since you're still hung up on your ex, who was a D-bag to you. Why would you still want to be with someone who's negative towards you, and treated you like crap? Have more respect for yourself. You deserve better.

[differentcountries]

Why did your ex promise not to date other people after your divorce? And especially not another skin color? I read a lot of unresolved issues here, and you maybe seeing divorce as an interlude in you getting back together. It is no concern of yours who he dates. Having feelings for your ex can be humiliating and hard, but tif you try to live your life as he has no important factor in it, then slowly it might become true.