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I think I can understand a little of where you are coming from as when I went through a bout of depression I did get feelings similar to what you are explaining - wanting to spend time with my (now ex) GF, and finding it difficult to focus on myself and my own wellbeing.
It really sounds to me that you need to investigate the factors as to why you 'require' your BF to provide you with the interaction with the real world, and why you are resenting him having a busy life. I think if you can identify those, you will be better able to work out why your hobbies no longer interest you etc.
It sounds to me like you are depressed - it is not *normal* to stay in bed all day apart from work, with no interest in anything else. It was where I ended up when my relationship fell apart and it is a horrible place to be long term - and I only did it for 2 weeks!
For me it was baby steps when I have found my online life taking over my real world one - and it happened to me about 10 years ago...
Th solution was to ban myself from the net - I was forced to do other things in order to make sure I did not crazy, I read a lot in that time period, played a lot of pc games, went cycling/walking, but only allowed myself 30mins a day online to check emails.
More recently after my ex split up with me we tried to be friends, and while that has not worked out, not talking to her, has enabled me to mentally remove my expectation of her making me happy, or to keep me occupied etc.
While I don't like doing it, I have been gardening, and doing jobs round that house that are needed to fill my time... making sure you do *something* though is what makes me get through my days and is helping me sort myself out, and my next step is to go see a counsellor to try to avoid that mental dependence in the first place as well, or at least cope with it better when it happens. -
Do you have anybody (besides him) to talk to about your mental ilness?I made love to him only twice, she thought and looked at the man laying asleep beside her. And yet still it is as if we have been together forever, as if he has always known my life, my soul, my body, my light, my pain
- Paulo Coelho, "Eleven minutes"
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Exactly what p_b82 said....
Wise words.Comment
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