im confused

[scootles]

I met this wonderful guy and I am having this problem,...there's a saying if he's really interested he will show interest..well basically I am the one starting every conversation.He doesn't even say Wrud? Then when we do talk it's always one word answers..Does this mean he really isn't interested? I have told him how I feel and he said he's busy and that he's trying..What should I do?

[snow_girl]

Maybe he doesn't' say wrud cause is isn't a word?? Some people just are like that, my SO can be. You just have to decide if that is a quality you can live with

[scootles]

Well I'm now seeing how long it will be before he contacts me,just anything to check in or to see what I'm doing..I just want to know if he's really interested in me.

[Happygirl123]

like snow_girl said, my so can also be like that some times. in my honest opinion, there are times where it does tend to bother me. I end up asking him several times,"what's wrong" or, "are you ok" because he just looks so moody at times. But I have come to notice that he can just be a little quiet especially when he is concentrating on something. I feel like his positive qualities over shine that though.
So ultimately, I would suggest (just my opinion) that you continue to keep communication open, and see how it goes, see how his attitude towards things changes and whether a little time might allow him to ease into things, perhaps he's a little apprehensive if this is a new relationship.
I know you're new on this site, but your post didn't say much about your relationship so it is hard to be able to give you an accurate answer as to what you "should" do, was it like this from the start? is this a new pattern of behaviour?

[Ejoriah]

How close do you live/how frequently do you see each other? Some people aren't "wordy" when it comes to sending messages and just wait until they're in person to talk.

[scootles]

We started an LDR online on the 23rd so fairly new.We're going to meet on July 17th and planning a weekend together.Yes basically he was like this from the beginning.He lives in SC, and I live in Arkansas.

[Happygirl123]

I would see how he is nearing towards your first meet as the date gets closer. Good luck with that btw, I hope everything pans out for you. & on a little side note, i thought it was funny that july 17th is when me and my so met online last year ;P and he is currently in SC. Lol.

[snow_girl]

We started an LDR online on the 23rd so fairly new.We're going to meet on July 17th and planning a weekend together.Yes basically he was like this from the beginning.He lives in SC, and I live in Arkansas.

So like a week ago? I don't know when my SO and I started off we talked constantly. Its a little early in the relationship for him to say "im trying" there should be no try this early in a relationship

[scootles]

So what does that mean then?

[scootles]

If we can't communicate now then what will it be like when we meet for the weekend? That's what I'm scared of

[snow_girl]

How long have you been talking to him before the relationship began? Has he ever been much of a talker? Do you ever talk on the phone?

[differentcountries]

It is simply too soon to tell. Things can change, too. In the beginning me and SO talked a lot on Skype, now more time is spent texting or making internet phone calls. He isn't really a writer, so a lot of our written communication is short sentences and emicons. It is not a problem because we know and understand each other. You have only just started to date your SO. Use the time when you meet to find out how you can best communicate. It may be that he is better talking on the phone than texting etc.

[scootles]

Our relationship and getting to know one another started on the 23rd,prior to that we would talk in the group were in together and basically it was the same.We hadn't talked on the phone as of yet.

[snow_girl]

Our relationship and getting to know one another started on the 23rd,prior to that we would talk in the group were in together and basically it was the same.We hadn't talked on the phone as of yet.

The getting to know each other stage should not include being busy and having to try. If someone is interested they will always find a way to make time

[scootles]

That's what's thought