Dealing with frustration

[Alwaysaway]

My partner Is away constantly for work. We've only been dating for a couple of months but already I'm finding the distance a massive challenge. I feel myself getting frustrated constantly I can't concentrate on anything: I try not to get mad at him because I know it's not his fault and I knew what I was getting myself into. But it's so hard! I get mad everytime he does something exciting without me or super jealous of the people he gets to see everyday. The emotions are completely taking over my life and I feel like all I do is sit around waiting for him to get back (not much of a life) does anyone else have problems with there emotions being all over the show?

[snow_girl]

Like you said, you knew what you were getting yourself into. Its absolutely pointless to dwell on the things he is doing and be jealous of the people that get to see him. It won't get you anywhere. Find your own fun, what did you do before you met him? Go out have fun, you can't rely on someone for your happiness if you can't give it to yourself first

[R&R]

Like you said, you knew what you were getting yourself into. Its absolutely pointless to dwell on the things he is doing and be jealous of the people that get to see him. It won't get you anywhere. Find your own fun, what did you do before you met him? Go out have fun, you can't rely on someone for your happiness if you can't give it to yourself first

100% this. It never ceases to amaze me how many people, once they become involved in relationship, seem to forget they functioned quite well before meeting their partner. Whether close distance or long distance, a relationship and your SO should enhance your life - not become your life. You need to take a big step back and analyze all aspects of your life and figure out what you want in life for you and work on those things in your times apart.

[c_denise3]

The best thing you can do is keep yourself busy like he does. Go out with your friends, spend time with your family, and just get yourself out of the house instead of sitting around and dwelling on the exciting things he's doing without you. Doing so will show him that you're not constantly waiting around on him. Having your own level of independency is so important in any type of relationship.

I can fully understand being jealous of everyone who gets to see him on the daily, but honestly, he's probably feeling the same way about you. Granted, I'm fortunate to only be 2 hours away from my SO, but life is just so much better when we're around each other. I know it'll take time before he and I can close that little bit of distance, but it will eventually happen when we both have our careers settled.

Hang in there, keep yourself busy, and enjoy counting down the days until you see him again!

[SailorRei]

I think that this is the advantage of LDR, you simply cannot live only for the relationship. There is no way in LDR to let your bf be everything to you, when you have a massive time difference and you basically living to separate lives. He's not there for most of the time, and you have your own responsibilities. He goes out with friends, you go out with your friends.
Sitting and waiting at home for him to come back- you'll get a bedsores because he's not coming home tonight or probably the whole month for that matter.

[differentcountries]

It is sometimes very hard. Like everyone says, find something to do, entertain yourself.

I am sometimes very jealous or angry because in high season he has very little time for me. I am even jealous when I am there, because he works so much and I stay at his workplace. But I remind myself that my feelings are what they are, and still the situation is what it is. He is doing the right thing, he is working to support himself. Together we can start to plan how we can be together in better ways. But he does what he can and I have to appreciate that. Still I can share my frustrations with him to som extent, and then it is my responsability to entertain and sooth myself, too. Don't sit around - do something: work out, see friends, take up a hobby, engage in work or studies. Try to twist your feelings around; when he posted fb pictures of the amazing party he had with his friend I got very upset. When he sends me pictures of meals with his cousin I get sad for not being there. But I tell him: the party looks great, wish I could share that meal - and he tells me, next time the party will include you, and he teases me that I can come right away to share the meal. Play with your emotions, they are not dangerous. Try to laugh a bit of yourself. I mean, last summer I was a nervous wreck who sent "Stay away from my boyfriend"-looks to women in clubs, even if SO was totally not interested in them, haha! And I am the least jealous person on the planet, but the situation was presssing on my nerves. I try to make friends with the feeling. And to make myself happy in my daily life, to make other things than him count.