Hi, I'm new here and new to an LDR.
I met my boyfriend 3 months ago. I am working in his country. When we met he had a job lined up in the US. After 1 month we became a couple with the intention of a sort of summer fling thinking we would break up when he left. Only neither if us wanted to break up when the time came, so when he left last week we decided to try the ldr thing. I will visit him in the US for christmas but that is 6 minths away....
The first few days he was gone were ok, we texted each other all day (13 hour time difference means one of us is always awake!) but since then he hasn't been texting me much at all. Even less than when he was still here. When he was still here he would text me little updates on what he is doing and send me pictures of who he was with. Now i am having to constantly ask to find out what he is doing.
Is that normal when a couple separates? I am worried because our relationship was going so well before but maybe 2 months isn't a strong enough foundation for an ldr. I know he is busy because he is starting a new job in a new country, but i feel like he is already failing to put in the effort. Even tho i asked him to let me know all the boring stuff he is doing i still haven't had any updates from him all day, even though i message him every few hours just like we used to when he was here. Is this something i should get use to or us it a sign that this is doomed already? How often do you talk to your SO? I don't think i can cope with the lack of contact but i really want this to work.
I met my boyfriend 3 months ago. I am working in his country. When we met he had a job lined up in the US. After 1 month we became a couple with the intention of a sort of summer fling thinking we would break up when he left. Only neither if us wanted to break up when the time came, so when he left last week we decided to try the ldr thing. I will visit him in the US for christmas but that is 6 minths away....
The first few days he was gone were ok, we texted each other all day (13 hour time difference means one of us is always awake!) but since then he hasn't been texting me much at all. Even less than when he was still here. When he was still here he would text me little updates on what he is doing and send me pictures of who he was with. Now i am having to constantly ask to find out what he is doing.
Is that normal when a couple separates? I am worried because our relationship was going so well before but maybe 2 months isn't a strong enough foundation for an ldr. I know he is busy because he is starting a new job in a new country, but i feel like he is already failing to put in the effort. Even tho i asked him to let me know all the boring stuff he is doing i still haven't had any updates from him all day, even though i message him every few hours just like we used to when he was here. Is this something i should get use to or us it a sign that this is doomed already? How often do you talk to your SO? I don't think i can cope with the lack of contact but i really want this to work.
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