Has anyone else dealt with annoyances from family members in regards to your relationship?
I've been dealing with my mother constantly complaining about how I always go visit my SO, and how he doesn't come visit my family and I enough. For starters, as much as I like my SO to be involved with my family, I would rather go to his town to visit him. There's more to do, and we just have more privacy. Whenever he is here at my house, my family is constantly intruding on our privacy. Secondly, my SO has a full-time job and just had to take on a second one since his hours got cut at his full-time job. My mother has a tendency to plan little family getaways and of course wants my SO to join us for my sake. She gets annoyed when he can't give her a definite answer about attending our family outings, which in turn, really upsets me because she likes to complain about it. She does not understand that his boss is not as lenient as hers and mine, and will not just let him call off work when he wants to. My mom gets furious and says, "well he just has to ruin everything doesn't he?"
My mother, god love her, is so two-faced when it comes to my boyfriend. One minute she's talking him up, saying how great he is, but the minute he doesn't do what she wants or what she thinks is the right thing to do, he's a bad person. Oh, and the best part, whenever I defend him (which I always do) I get the, "I can't believe you're defending a guy over your family!" lecture. Um... yeah? He's the person I love, of course I'm going to defend him and stand by him. I'm certainly not going to sit back and allow you to personally attack him when he's not here to defend himself.
I just cannot wait until I'm finished with school (8 more months, thank god) and I can leave this town. As much as I want to have my family somewhat involved with my relationship and for them to REALLY love my boyfriend, I can't tolerate this crap much longer and I refuse to. I can't wait for the day my SO and I can close this distance between us and truly begin our lives together, just he and I. He and I both come from rather odd families, mine are a little more normal than his. My family was a lot more supportive and welcoming to him than his family was to me, but over time my family has really shown their true colors.
I've been dealing with my mother constantly complaining about how I always go visit my SO, and how he doesn't come visit my family and I enough. For starters, as much as I like my SO to be involved with my family, I would rather go to his town to visit him. There's more to do, and we just have more privacy. Whenever he is here at my house, my family is constantly intruding on our privacy. Secondly, my SO has a full-time job and just had to take on a second one since his hours got cut at his full-time job. My mother has a tendency to plan little family getaways and of course wants my SO to join us for my sake. She gets annoyed when he can't give her a definite answer about attending our family outings, which in turn, really upsets me because she likes to complain about it. She does not understand that his boss is not as lenient as hers and mine, and will not just let him call off work when he wants to. My mom gets furious and says, "well he just has to ruin everything doesn't he?"
My mother, god love her, is so two-faced when it comes to my boyfriend. One minute she's talking him up, saying how great he is, but the minute he doesn't do what she wants or what she thinks is the right thing to do, he's a bad person. Oh, and the best part, whenever I defend him (which I always do) I get the, "I can't believe you're defending a guy over your family!" lecture. Um... yeah? He's the person I love, of course I'm going to defend him and stand by him. I'm certainly not going to sit back and allow you to personally attack him when he's not here to defend himself.
I just cannot wait until I'm finished with school (8 more months, thank god) and I can leave this town. As much as I want to have my family somewhat involved with my relationship and for them to REALLY love my boyfriend, I can't tolerate this crap much longer and I refuse to. I can't wait for the day my SO and I can close this distance between us and truly begin our lives together, just he and I. He and I both come from rather odd families, mine are a little more normal than his. My family was a lot more supportive and welcoming to him than his family was to me, but over time my family has really shown their true colors.
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