Taking Time to Himself?

[Patchworkturtle]

Me and my guy saw each other at the weekend and for some reason we got in a big long talk about his ex. He wanted to leave instead of carry on talking, but stayed as he knew I'd be upset and everything seemed normal the morning I left, but now I'm home I've literally had 2 texts from him, both in response to me checking in.

The most recent 'Just taking some time to myself, it's nice, like fishin' Please don't stress over it. I shall be chatty sooner or later. Enjoy yourself too. Chat with friends, have parties etc :P' came yesterday afternoon after I told him I didn't know how to put things right if he wasn't talking to me. Nothing since, and after not receiving a reply to my usual 'goodnight' I haven't tried today. He has been online a couple of times on the app we use to communicate, but hasn't said a word to me despite my happening to be online at the same time.

He is crazy busy with job hunting at the moment.. Should I be worried? This is the first time we've ever had a long distance fall out in our year together, I'm petrified he's gonna leave me, though my friends say I should take the message as a positive and he's probably just after some space following our long talk? Considering our distance I find 'lack of space' difficult to comprehend :P but do get what they're saying..

Any advice? If he lived closer I'd be planning on dropping by with apologies and home cooking, but being long distance I need advice and ideas (and reassurance!) Thankyou everybody

[snow]

Does this message seem out of the ordinary, as in, does he usually write like that?
To me, this seems like he's just trying to cope with being long distance again! I wouldn't worry.

[Patchworkturtle]

Yes, the quip about fishing and having parties do fit with his type of humour and how he writes. He is a very well spoken man, but he's been under a lot of stress with the job thing lately. He was desperate to get out of the conversation on Saturday, kept saying it'd be best if he went home, but he did stay despite feeling uncomfortable, then Sunday he admitted he hadn't had that 'relief' moment if you will, where he was able to take stock of everything- it was just me talking a lot I'm ashamed to say..
I am missing him dreadfully as we text even a little every day, so I'm really feeling it. We usually see each other at least once a month, be it me to him or him to me, and the thought of never seeing him again has me in a right mess :/

[MissingMyDutchLove]

The thing that I've learned about guys over the years is that they tend to say what they mean without little hidden meanings and things that must be deciphered. Without knowing your SO and if this would be typical of him, I can only assume that he would be the same way and that you should take what he said at face value. You have to trust the fact that he is in this and if he isn't that he would come to you for that conversation.

[pandasrule38]

If you're really worried, just send him a picture via Facebook chat and see if he sends any pictures back. Also he's trying to reassure that "he'll be chatty sooner or later," maybe just check to see if he's alright in general and let him know you're here for him. I think guys tend to go all quiet when things are going badly in their minds or just in their life.