Doubt, again

[Honour]

I don't think you're nagging, you have every right to ask questions. My SO is coming here sometime Spring or early Summer 2016, and he isn't even close to getting his passport. Hopefully your SO gets his soon enough, wouldn't be fair to leave you hanging a 3rd time.

[sasad]

Nope, mine was not expedited, but I applied at the best time. We are going into holiday seasons, so I am sure it I'll take longer now,
Yea... Drinking and driving is a big mess getting it back,,, it must not have been his first or only offense though.
I would be highly doubtful at this point tbh.

[glasspaper]

I don't think you're nagging, you have every right to ask questions. My SO is coming here sometime Spring or early Summer 2016, and he isn't even close to getting his passport. Hopefully your SO gets his soon enough, wouldn't be fair to leave you hanging a 3rd time.

We'll see it in the next few days, i wanna see what he gonna say and do after the text i sent, thanks!

[glasspaper]

Nope, mine was not expedited, but I applied at the best time. We are going into holiday seasons, so I am sure it I'll take longer now,
Yea... Drinking and driving is a big mess getting it back,,, it must not have been his first or only offense though.
I would be highly doubtful at this point tbh.

Yes, christmas and new year is coming, so should be a peak season soon.
I know that he has some issue in his life, pretty crappy ones.
And i've just been all sticking with him no matter what.
The drinking thing isn't the only thing that actually got me on my nerves sometimes, but if this time he just all BS ing around, again, then i don't think i'll be still in this kind of relationship with him no more.

I'm just postponing thing that i'm gonna do tomorrow that involved my $$ to set up things when he visit. I need to be sure first that he really means it and do what he said he gonna do

[R&R]

Is it an expedited one? or the regular passport application one?
Less than a month sounds really awesome.
So his driver lisence has been suspended caused by drunk driving thing 6 years ago.
And he is planning to get it back soon.
Though he also telling me about get his driver lisence back each years too, and it's still all suspended now.
It's because the money issue thing, that he couldn't able to pay the fines stuff.

But he said that he got the money now, more than he ever had before.
And this time gonna be real.
But idk

6 years? That's a long time for a suspended license. First time offenders usually get probation. I did a little digging and it varies from state to state but you won't see a 6 year suspension unless there are 4 or more offenses. This would be a major concern for me as if he's telling you the truth, he's obviously had some very bad repeat behavior. IMHO though, I think he's just getting more excuses ready for when he starts on the "I couldn't get my passport in time" stories.

[differentcountries]

Anyone can do something bad, even repeatedly, at some point in his life. If they took his licence 6 years ago, at least he was not able to put his own life and the life of others on the line by drinking and driving. Let's hope he started to go easy on the general drinking. Perhaps even working so much is taking off his crave to drink.

But during those 6 car-less years, he never learned the proper way to go to the next town? Has he never left his town all this time? Even if, for the last 3 years he has planned going abroad to meet you? I mean, I can understand not going abroad, and not having the time or money for much vacationing if he is literally paying for his sins (the fines), but it sounds very weird to have not clue how to get to even the next town. I mean, if he really is this lax with everything in his life.. Is he depressed? Anxiety? What is he not telling you?

[glasspaper]

I don't know, guys i'm puzzled.
So his response for the long texts for my questions are just a sad emoticon and "i love ya baby"
Now i just kinda feel like an idiot

[R&R]

I don't know, guys i'm puzzled.
So his response for the long texts for my questions are just a sad emoticon and "i love ya baby"
Now i just kinda feel like an idiot

Why do you feel like an idiot? Because you are now seeing what everyone is telling you? Don't feel like an idiot. Lots of us have believed people because we want to believe the best of people and because we ourselves would never do something like this to someone else. Unfortunately, not everyone is a good person. If you learn from it and don't let it to continue to happen, they you have matured and grown. It helps you set boundries for yourself for future relationships.

As far as all he says is "I love ya, Baby" - well anyone can say anything they like. I could tell you that dogs say meow and cats bark, but that doesn't make it true. You know that dogs bark and cats meow from experience. His actions don't match his words and you know that from experience as well.

[glasspaper]

R&R, cause i have felt that he just all fooling me around and i'm still all buying his not-so-funny joke anyway.

I then replied it with asking what did he mean? Cause i don't think that's answering my questions.

Which he replied shortly with he knows it and saying that of course he wanna go to my place, but he is still very busy and haven't been able to do too much.
And he'll need to getting some paychecks too.
Saying don't hate him and still telling that he wanna go so bad.

Meh?
What is that all bout on the night when we're on the phone and he said that the tickets deals are affordable and he even could book it that night or in the next morning?

So i actually getting pissed now, i told him that this isn't funny anymore and i have already pulled out all of my saving to get ready and set things up here. But i maybe just misinterpreting his joke as a serious one, again.

Let's see how he'll proceed that

[R&R]

If you haven't already spent your savings, PUT THEM BACK! Until he can prove himself by getting his passport, his ticket, etc - do not spend any of your own money.

[glasspaper]

R&R I am, i'm just pending all of things that i was gonna do with this money and holding it in my pocket tightly until he puts his acts together.
I'm all bummed, whew haha

[glasspaper]

Anyone can do something bad, even repeatedly, at some point in his life. If they took his licence 6 years ago, at least he was not able to put his own life and the life of others on the line by drinking and driving. Let's hope he started to go easy on the general drinking. Perhaps even working so much is taking off his crave to drink.

But during those 6 car-less years, he never learned the proper way to go to the next town? Has he never left his town all this time? Even if, for the last 3 years he has planned going abroad to meet you? I mean, I can understand not going abroad, and not having the time or money for much vacationing if he is literally paying for his sins (the fines), but it sounds very weird to have not clue how to get to even the next town. I mean, if he really is this lax with everything in his life.. Is he depressed? Anxiety? What is he not telling you?

He indeed has a drinking problem that somwhat i concern about. He always telling me about his need to keep his self busy, and he told me once that his brain is kind of "crazy".

He lives in a remote area, theres some cars there at his actually. Since he too living with his cousins next door, he usualy go around the town with his cousin's driving.
But the cousin is no longer stay in there, but i'm sure that he should have other buddies that might be able to help him with ride if he ever needs it.

I don't really know about the public transportations around there, but i'm sure yes there should be some. He isn't live in a total isolated area.

He went to his hometown in midwest every couple months or so, and theres a buss that he usually takes to get him home from the airport.

We actually just got back together these last 4 months after a break up that happened last year.
It's been an on and off relationship, but this time things should be better. Otherwise it's just a hot mess round and round circle that we go.

[differentcountries]

I don't know, guys i'm puzzled.
So his response for the long texts for my questions are just a sad emoticon and "i love ya baby"
Now i just kinda feel like an idiot

Of course you do. He acts as if you are the problem! Those were the kind of responses I got from SO too before I stopped being "kind" and "understanding", and simply told him that there are certain things I need in a relationship, and one of them is a guy who actually listens to me without blowing off my real concerns. Communication is not optional.

[R&R]

We actually just got back together these last 4 months after a break up that happened last year.
It's been an on and off relationship, but this time things should be better. Otherwise it's just a hot mess round and round circle that we go.

You said you've been on and off with him but "this time things should be better". Did you think this every time you got back together? You're already in a vicious circle.

People can change and sometimes it's worth a second chance. However, when the behaviors don't change and you continue with the thought process of "it will get better" and it never does - well eventually you have to realize that it's just not going to. You learn to stop giving third, fourth, fifth chances and realize that you deserve better than how you are being treated and walk away with your head held high.

[Lilly9886]

Just a quick question, does one not need a passport to even buy a plane ticket?

If so, which was the case everytime I bought a ticket, I really don't think he can make it in November...

Sorry for you.... maybe you should just move on?