Feeling very lonely right now...

[Unicorn26]

My SO is away working in Vegas for the next 11 days. The time difference is now 7 hours and it makes talking really difficult.

We usually speak on the phone for at least an hour a day but that cannot happen whilst he is away. He has no wifi in his hotel (he has to pay for it and it's very expensive) and he's really busy with the show. We are barely managing more than 10 texts a day. Usually we text every few hours but that simply can't happen at the moment.

He's also landed another job for when he gets home which is full time and reasonably well paid which is great because it means he will be able to visit more but damn, I miss him.

To go from talking every day and texting a lot, especially after my recent visit, to virtually no contact is really tough and I am really struggling.

I know I need to focus on the bigger picture but this is harder than I ever thought it would be. I feel like half of me is missing. He does text when he can but I miss not talking to him. I wish I knew how he was getting on and how he is feeling. I don't want to bug him as I know he's hideously busy, I just really really miss him. Our communication was excellent and frequent, this is a huge adjustment for me and I'm not dealing with it terribly well... :-(

[hmrambling]

It's certainly understandable that you feel lonely. I change in the amount of time that you communicate usually takes some adjustment. I get that it's already hard after your visit.

I notice you didn't ask for suggestions, so I don't want to barrage you with advice or suggestions. Know that I understand how you feel, and that I've been there. You're not alone.

[Honour]

Yeah, 7 hour time differences SUCK. Depending on the time of year, my SO and I are always 7-8 hours apart. All I can say is you get used to it after awhile. It sucks at first, but there's not much you can do about it. At least it's only for 11 days. That's the best way to look at it.

[Unicorn26]

Things are a little better today. We got to chat a little via text last night and I explained how difficult I'm finding this adjustment. He was, as usual, really understanding. He said he would try harder to text more often and he has. He also said it's tough for him too and he's also finding the adjustment difficult and he misses me terribly as well. All that made me feel a lot better. He said he's worried about waking me in the middle of the night if he texts me but I explained I'd rather have that happen and be a little tired the next day than hear nothing and be worrying all the next day.

I'm feeling much more cheerful, I still miss our conversations but as Honour said, it's only 11 days. It will pass. I will get used to it I'm sure. I just miss our playful banter as there isn't really time for that at the moment. The little time we have to talk is taken up with catching up with the day's events.

He said he's going to pay for wifi one night so we can have a good talk. I'm looking forward to hearing his voice again.

[Honour]

It's good that he's putting the effort in for you. Specially the wifi thing. That, and 11 days will fly by when you least expect it :P

[Unicorn26]

He puts a ton of effort into our relationship, I do too but it's so lovely to have that from a man. When I was visiting he held every door open (and slapped my ass as I walked through!) cooked for me, brought me coffee and breakfast in bed every morning and really made me feel ultra special. We have both been hurt really badly in the past, I think that makes a massive difference once you meet someone you really click with. We also both think the other is way out of our league and that's something we really giggle about ha!!!