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    #1

    I just don't feel excited for him to visit anymore..

    Okay, so the title is the slightest bit deceiving in that I do get excited, however the feeling only arises when I'm, say, on the way to the airport to pick him up. Before our first visit, I was so excited that I felt almost ill for an entire week before I flew over to see him. Now, after quite a few visits, I just don't get that excited feeling days before anymore. He is the same way. I mean, he is on his way to the airport right now to fly out and visit me in the States, but we said goodbye on Skype like this:
    Him: "I better get going. See you later, sweetie. I love you.

    Me: "Okay, honey. I love you too. See you in just a little while!"

    We were both pretty monotone and we both just seemed kind of "meh" about this entire thing. We love each other so much and we always have the loveliest visits, but is it bad that I just don't get excited anymore? I am not excited until I'm at the airport, I'm not excited when I get a message from him, I'm not excited when he calls me on Skype... I just don't know how to feel about all of that. We have been together for two years, so is this normal for the nervous energy to kind of die down after awhile?

    I hope this made sense! Thanks! xo
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    #2
    That's normal, no worries! The novelty can start to wear off as things fall more into a routine. It doesn't necessarily mean that your feelings have changed, but it does mean that you two are getting pretty comfortable in your situation. The comfortable stage is pretty great, so I wouldn't worry about it. I hope you two have a lovely visit

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      #3
      We have also dated two years. Visits are great, but not that EXİTİNG. I think I would get mad if I was as thrilled as I was in the beginning. Plus to me, every visit is a bit like, yes, we still don't live in the same country. So, visiting is great but also dissapointing because of this. The novelty wears off and the comfy /friendship part grows deeper. I like this stage too.
      I made love to him only twice, she thought and looked at the man laying asleep beside her. And yet still it is as if we have been together forever, as if he has always known my life, my soul, my body, my light, my pain
      - Paulo Coelho, "Eleven minutes"



      "Bız yüzyılın aşkı vardır" - We have dated since Sept. 2013. To see our full story, click here https://members.lovingfromadistance....and-our-visits

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        #4
        Originally posted by differentcountries View Post
        We have also dated two years. Visits are great, but not that EXİTİNG. I think I would get mad if I was as thrilled as I was in the beginning. Plus to me, every visit is a bit like, yes, we still don't live in the same country. So, visiting is great but also dissapointing because of this. The novelty wears off and the comfy /friendship part grows deeper. I like this stage too.
        Originally posted by Harlequin View Post
        That's normal, no worries! The novelty can start to wear off as things fall more into a routine. It doesn't necessarily mean that your feelings have changed, but it does mean that you two are getting pretty comfortable in your situation. The comfortable stage is pretty great, so I wouldn't worry about it. I hope you two have a lovely visit
        Thank you guys so much! Really reassuring! <3 xo

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          #5
          My SO and I don't really get excited until about 2 weeks before. Even I think the week running up to is just monotone and 'will it just hurry up'. We are happy when we are together, but it's hard to get so excited until a few days before when it's just waiting for 3-5 months out of the year to see each other. I love my SO to bits but still, waiting takes the fun out of it. Unlike that first trip where I was crazy excited for 3 months. I think I got excited but nervous a few weeks before last time. I'm not at that stage yet. I think it's normal. You get used to waiting and then it only becomes exciting when reality sets in that they are going to be with you.
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            #6
            Even though I've never met my SO, I can honestly say it's just a natural reaction for us, because when something is fresh and new, we get super thrilled, etc. Once that something becomes less so, we settle down, get used to the idea, it doesn't affect us quite so much, but is still worth while the wait.

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              #7
              For me, I have literally stopped being excited at all. Recently, he visited. The day he came, it just felt like any other day. About an hour before he got here, I got super nervous. Once he literally was in front of me, it took me a while to realize that he's HERE. He's in front of me! That's when I was excited/happy. Honestly, I feel like after two years with no end to LD in sight, if I got sick with excitement/nervousness every time we saw each other, I would never get anything done. I would constantly be thinking about the next visit! I don't think there's anything wrong with not being excited...I guess you could say that this is our way of getting out of the "honeymoon" phase...

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                #8
                I don't get too excited either. Lol. I think I just got used to it. It's kind of like when CD couples are just "meh" when they see their SO's often. It's weird. And, I don't even get to see mine as often as I used to.

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                  #9
                  Like MissingMyDutchLove, I don't get nervous/excited until literally right before he appears at the arrivals gate, and when he is physically in front of me. And then I'm only giddy excited for like, five minutes, and then we settle into a very normal "yes, we're together like we should be" feeling and carry on from there.

                  In fact, we both get almost grumpy before visits, because we're already sick of what a pain the travel is. Traveling is stressful, and I get worked up about dumb worries over the hotel or the rental car, so any excitement gets buried by all the petty little annoyances that come with LDR visits.

                  But, I don't love my guy any less for this and I don't think it means that something is wrong, so it's "normal" from where I'm sitting! I hope that reassures you a bit

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