Am I overreacting?
Long story short...
My now fiance and I have been in a happy long distance relationship for almost five years now. I have recently gone out of my way to visit him, and everything was great. We had a great time as always and he did a few sweet things for me. We both were emotional leaving each other as always. Then I got home and in the last few weeks I feel something has changed.
On another note, he makes little effort to come see me, although he now says he will be coming to see me soon. I keep bringing it up and he's all for it, but I feel I need to see it to believe it.
Ever since I got home it's been an effort to get him to skype with me. I asked if maybe he missed me too much seeing me, and he said that was it. I believed him, but then we went a week without skyping at all. I missed seeing him and started to think that if he missed me he would surly want to see me. The terrible part is that I found many times while he was talking to me on instant message, he had the house to himself and could easily open skype and talk undisturbed! His excuse? He was busy with something and won't even say what. He talks a lot about his computers, and I wonder if maybe he's putting his hobbies first. When we did skype, all he talked about was nonsense.
He still sends loving emails many times through the day, and even from work. I know his job is really stressing him out, and he talks about quitting. I wondered if that was the problem.
Then came Valentine's day. I had already gave him a nice gift and later sent him a nice card, making sure he got it on time. Come Saturday...nothing from him. When I worked it into a conversation he claimed he got me something but had no time to send it. So I waited. He has yet to send anything, and I find he really didn't bother to get me anything at all. It wasn't a matter of getting a gift, it was a matter of him putting in some effort.
We still talk over instant message every night, and seem in love, but I wonder if something is wrong. I love him, but now I'm getting hurt and frustrated. Am I overreacting?
My now fiance and I have been in a happy long distance relationship for almost five years now. I have recently gone out of my way to visit him, and everything was great. We had a great time as always and he did a few sweet things for me. We both were emotional leaving each other as always. Then I got home and in the last few weeks I feel something has changed.
On another note, he makes little effort to come see me, although he now says he will be coming to see me soon. I keep bringing it up and he's all for it, but I feel I need to see it to believe it.
Ever since I got home it's been an effort to get him to skype with me. I asked if maybe he missed me too much seeing me, and he said that was it. I believed him, but then we went a week without skyping at all. I missed seeing him and started to think that if he missed me he would surly want to see me. The terrible part is that I found many times while he was talking to me on instant message, he had the house to himself and could easily open skype and talk undisturbed! His excuse? He was busy with something and won't even say what. He talks a lot about his computers, and I wonder if maybe he's putting his hobbies first. When we did skype, all he talked about was nonsense.
He still sends loving emails many times through the day, and even from work. I know his job is really stressing him out, and he talks about quitting. I wondered if that was the problem.
Then came Valentine's day. I had already gave him a nice gift and later sent him a nice card, making sure he got it on time. Come Saturday...nothing from him. When I worked it into a conversation he claimed he got me something but had no time to send it. So I waited. He has yet to send anything, and I find he really didn't bother to get me anything at all. It wasn't a matter of getting a gift, it was a matter of him putting in some effort.
We still talk over instant message every night, and seem in love, but I wonder if something is wrong. I love him, but now I'm getting hurt and frustrated. Am I overreacting?
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