Feeling down, lost, unsure

[Unicorn26]

OP I think we were married to the same man, reading your more detailed post was like reading about my marriage. I also had to deal with a hideous, manipulative mother in law who would everything in her power to push me and my (ex) husband apart. She would thrive on causing drama in the family and it made for a very stressful life. Recently, she tried to creep her way back into my life. She wants to come over and have a cup of tea. I told her no way, that after the 20 years of hell she put me through I didn't trust her as far as I can pee and she can f*ck off. It was a GREAT feeling.

You have my sympathy. What you and your children have been through is truly hideous.

[sasad]

OP I think we were married to the same man, reading your more detailed post was like reading about my marriage. I also had to deal with a hideous, manipulative mother in law who would everything in her power to push me and my (ex) husband apart. She would thrive on causing drama in the family and it made for a very stressful life. Recently, she tried to creep her way back into my life. She wants to come over and have a cup of tea. I told her no way, that after the 20 years of hell she put me through I didn't trust her as far as I can pee and she can f*ck off. It was a GREAT feeling.

You have my sympathy. What you and your children have been through is truly hideous.

we need an Obnoxious MIL topic... lol My Ex MIL used to call me Tina.. that was my ex's old GF before we got married... She finally stopped after she apologized for calling me Tina for the 2000th time, after I told her, "Don't worry Anne (MIL),senility comes with old age." She never ever called me Tina again..

[Unicorn26]

we need an Obnoxious MIL topic... lol My Ex MIL used to call me Tina.. that was my ex's old GF before we got married... She finally stopped after she apologized for calling me Tina for the 2000th time, after I told her, "Don't worry Anne (MIL),senility comes with old age." She never ever called me Tina again..

Oh crikey, mine was called Anne too!!!!

[sasad]

Oh crikey, mine was called Anne too!!!!

OOOOOOOOOONOOOOOOOOO that is so scary hahah Your ex wasn't Forrest or Dale was he??

[Unicorn26]

OOOOOOOOOONOOOOOOOOO that is so scary hahah Your ex wasn't Forrest or Dale was he??

Ha! No, not many of those over here!

[TiffRN]

Thank you all for your input....LDRs definitely aren't easy. My SO is willing to wait until my oldest graduates, all I can pray for is my youngest is still open to moving at that point, and if shes not there will be some big decisions to make, that's one reason I have contemplated moving now. Its amazing that I was married for 13 yrs and couldn't care less especially in the last 8-9 years if he was gone for 2-3 wks at a time! Now, I have someone I love dearly and its harder than hell to be without him...I'll just keep trucking along. Who knows maybe things will change? Ultimately my kids need to realize that my happiness matters too, I, like many, stayed in a shitty relationship, #1 because of my faith and I was raised that way, and #2 I thought it was better for them....I wised up, and hindsight is always 20/20. Thank you all!

[Dwessie]

Guys, you seem to be forgetting what it's like to be 15. It's pretty brutal for a 15 year old to have to switch high schools, going from a place where she has established friendships, maybe from childhood, activities, groups she belongs to, and hopefully most of all, acceptance. Throwing her into a new school, where she's alone at a time when friendship means everything, and is developing the kind of adult she'll be, is awful. She's 15, wait the few years until she's done school. The teen isn't the selfish one here, in my opinion. No, you don't have to cater to your teen's whims, but you do sacrifice your own happiness sometimes for the sake of what really is best for your child. She's only got a few years let, then the OP can do what she wants. We're not taking about a spoiled kid, we're talking, in this case, about a normal one who is established where she is. And, if her father is involved, it's pretty unfair to move her away from him.

As a single mom of a now adult, you don't always get to do what you want, and when reasonable, the kids needs (not wants, needs) come first.

I switched high schools at 15 and I was the one pushing for that move lol.
Not every 15 year old is the same. Some of them don't have any friends in their old school

[whatruckus]

I switched high schools at 15 and I was the one pushing for that move lol.
Not every 15 year old is the same. Some of them don't have any friends in their old school

This is true too. Like I said before, sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn't.

[C.C.]

Yeah, I changed schools at 13 and I was happiest.

[Moon]

I switched high schools at 15 and I was the one pushing for that move lol.
Not every 15 year old is the same. Some of them don't have any friends in their old school

Yeah, I changed schools at 13 and I was happiest.

Totally get that, I never, ever considered all of any age to be the same, but her daughter clearly doesn't want to move and switch schools, that's the difference.