Rambeling about being brocken up..
Yeah, so after 3 years its over.
not because we dont love eachother anymore, but because our plans for the future are just opposite in almost every way.
I'm not sure how this could have happend, but it did, slowly over time. We've both realised it during the last year more and more, but we're still so in love, we just pushed it aside.
Breaking up was the hardest thing i ever did. cried 3 days in advance and havent slept for the 2 nights since.
I hope that we can somehow manage to become friends when we're over eachother. but i cant see me getting over him anytime soon.
We both agreed that it was the wisest step to take, that we were clinging on to something that cant last, and both dreaming oposit dreams of a future together that could never make both of us happy.
Now i'm not saying that every relationship has to be set up for a life long bond, but we just are in a situation where we're looking for that kind of comitment and long term plan. (Hell, he started talking about marriage pretty much 4 month into the relationship xD)
Besides harbouring illusions about the future our relationship also became a means to hide. we are both suffering from social anxiety, so having a futureless relationship with someone we see twice a year was a convinent alternative to dating irl. so even tho we realised it wasnt working, it was easyer to stick to the status quo, instead of facing the truth.
for now we're not talking for a month, to get our heads straight. And will then hopfully find a way to stay in regular contact as friends without confusing our feelings too much.
I just hope staying friends works. I can talk to him about anything, and he just understands. I miss him already so insanely much.
not because we dont love eachother anymore, but because our plans for the future are just opposite in almost every way.
I'm not sure how this could have happend, but it did, slowly over time. We've both realised it during the last year more and more, but we're still so in love, we just pushed it aside.
Breaking up was the hardest thing i ever did. cried 3 days in advance and havent slept for the 2 nights since.
I hope that we can somehow manage to become friends when we're over eachother. but i cant see me getting over him anytime soon.
We both agreed that it was the wisest step to take, that we were clinging on to something that cant last, and both dreaming oposit dreams of a future together that could never make both of us happy.
Now i'm not saying that every relationship has to be set up for a life long bond, but we just are in a situation where we're looking for that kind of comitment and long term plan. (Hell, he started talking about marriage pretty much 4 month into the relationship xD)
Besides harbouring illusions about the future our relationship also became a means to hide. we are both suffering from social anxiety, so having a futureless relationship with someone we see twice a year was a convinent alternative to dating irl. so even tho we realised it wasnt working, it was easyer to stick to the status quo, instead of facing the truth.
for now we're not talking for a month, to get our heads straight. And will then hopfully find a way to stay in regular contact as friends without confusing our feelings too much.
I just hope staying friends works. I can talk to him about anything, and he just understands. I miss him already so insanely much.
I'm also in the same boat :/ It's hard getting over someone you were so in love with, but it's even harder to stay in a relationship that's not working or going anywhere. You did the right thing. Take as much time as you need to recover 
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