My story

[Sanjikun]

(First time posting here)

I wanna share mine story so far.

Me (23M) met her (26F) about 9 months ago on this game called FFXIV.
We got along pretty well though I had to like initiate everything cause she seemed like a shy and honest person.
Which bothered me quite abit, after awhile she started showing interest.
Fast forward to 2 months ago she admitted she had a feeling and was falling hard for me but at the same time digging heels in out of fear for free fall, getting hurt, being open about stuff.
I told her that it wasnt a surprise that I had feeling for her and she knew that.
She then said she would work on setting things straight in her head about the fears and stuff.
Sooo, about 2 weeks later we got married inside the game FFXIV and she was happy with how things are.

Then I got mine own share of concerns atm, I dont mind asking questions but she isnt showing any commitment I feel so to say.
I always have to invite her to get on teamspeak so we can chat and for mine say have a great time.
I told her we'll talk the 11th cause then its 1 month anniversary (silly) of oure wedding and how to proceed with stuff.
But I feel like she wont show any commitment and is to easy going.
We know each other first name, dont know how we look, I feel like Ill need a crowbar to get more out of her..

I dont know if im in the wrong here or just stupidly worried?
It all feels so 1 sided, I dont wanna be the 1 putting in so much energy into this and end up losing myself over this :l.

Any advice will be welcome and ty for reading.

[sunmat]

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[Astysuphos]

I totally agree with sunmat. It also does indeed sound very one sided. Do you talk on skype or anything? Or chat there or havent u ever seen a picture of her or heard her voice? Because the danger of falling in love over game is that you unconciously build up an image of her game character. Ofcourse i dont want to indicitate the fact that you do this, or how important looks are for you but be careful for that. I would say go skype togethet and get to know eachother in real life (as in skyping with cam) and then see how you feel about her

[Sanjikun]

We talk on teamspeak actually.
I havent seen an picture of her yet cause she's very shy and I dont wanna push the wrong buttons.
I asked her yesterday about how things were from her side, cause she kinda sucks at expressing herself she said.

To quote what she said: won't lie, been falling pretty hard and would want it to turn into more

This did make me very happy but I dont think she has thought this out like I have.
I told her we would like have the big talk or w/e the 11th, and I sure hope she will ask questions to as I dont wanna rush things to quick and make her feel uncomfy so to say.
But ill ask her for a picture or some sort, cause its kinda silly after this long still not knowing how we look.

But you're completely right about the completing the image I have of her cause its still bit vague to me.
And I guess we will have to define what we have, she said she liked what we have, which I still dont actually know tbh.

Thank you for the replies this helped alot, Ill be sure to give an update.

[sunmat]

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