The worst thing about real-life LDR meetings...

[Andy]

Elina always crys at the airport and I wont lie, I do have to try pretty hard to hold it back, but I do. Last time we met, was the first ever time that she left me. She left the UK to go to Finland, and gooooood, that was hard.. Harder than it's ever been.
Whenever I'm there and I have to leave, I can.. do it. I know I have to leave, and prefer to just go in enough time and get it over and done with, but she just couldnt leave me.. I had to tell her 3 or 4 times to, and that was one of the hardest things I've ever had to do, cause she was crying her eyes out. I dont really plan on letting that happen again, so every time from now on when we see each other, I'd prefer to go there x)

Hmmmmmmmmmm........... that's a point :/

Tanja's coming here for the first time in November, so she's never left me before. I've left her 7 times and I'm like you, know I have to go etc so I can do it, despite how hard it is I go when I have to. But I've got a bad feeling that she might be a bit like Elina was :/

[sam]

Hmmmmmmmmmm........... that's a point :/

Tanja's coming here for the first time in November, so she's never left me before. I've left her 7 times and I'm like you, know I have to go etc so I can do it, despite how hard it is I go when I have to. But I've got a bad feeling that she might be a bit like Elina was :/

Yepppppppp, you'll see how much it sucks
I'm trying to make it that she can still come here, but she wont have to leave me when the time comes that we have to part again..

Like in October, she'll come here, and we'll fly to Finland together and I'll be the one leaving.. That way she gets to come here, but we dont seperate (so to speak ) again with her leaving me..

[kasia516]

omgosh i cry at everything so im always a mess saying goodbye. the first time he left me and we still had a long line at the airport so i was like ok, its fine, then they were like, ok everyone for this flight come forward NOW you have to go NOW and im just like WHAT!?!? and it came from no where, i just bawled my eyes out but he was in a hurry so he couldnt do much for me. he was fine though of course. but its hard because we have no idea when we'll see each other next.
9 months later i saw him again for 3 weeks. i was awful the last few days cuz i knew it was coming. then at the airport i tried to be strong for him, but i had to run to the bathroom to cry and came back and stood in line with him. i didnt let him touch me or hug me or anything when we waited in line. its mean i know, but its the only way i can cope.
being at home without him was so hard. i didnt expect it to be. i took some of his socks with me, and when i picked them up off the floor i burst out crying. it takes a few days to get used to, but i hate going from being with him to seeing him on skype.
and anyone ever notice how NO ONE ELSE is crying at the airport?! how everyone is all happy and bubbly?! its always ONLY us that are upset/crying.

[michy]

Andy- that was one hell of a pep talk- THANKS!!
I've had to leave him and have also had to watch him leave. I think it's much harder to be left. When I'm the one leaving, I turn away from him and I'm swept up in airport security and boarding and then sitting on a plane between random strangers for 8 hours- the forward motion is more conductive to looking ahead. But when he leaves me, the emptiness is much more stark by contrast, and there's a desperate sort of "But he was just here....!" feeling, and I want to reach out and grab someone who's no longer there.

I know it will be hard, as always!!! And I'll cry. And he'll have to comfort me as usual, LOL. But no, I won't let it detract from the joy of being with him, not even the tiniest bit

anyone ever notice how NO ONE ELSE is crying at the airport?! how everyone is all happy and bubbly?! its always ONLY us that are upset/crying.

YES!! Why is that??! Lol.

[paulawriteslove]

Of course leaving is always hard. But me and my SO try to make it easier We always talk about how soon we'll see each other next time and yaa Of course I do get sad but I keep our time together happy

[Karringtyn]

Just thinking about when it is harder.....it is always tough...BUT when I leave him..I have to focus and drive for 7 hours....but when he leaves....I just sit here and wait for his hourly calls for the drive back....I really do think it is harder with him here...because I see him everywhere after he leaves...and I know this is where we will ultimately live....hmmm.

[1_click_away]

I also find myself worrying about the goodbye before I even get to experience the greeting! I think you have to really just focus on the here and now....Be in the moment. If you consume yourself thinking about the Goodbye how can you enjoy the now you know?

[mllebamako]

I think it's pretty legit that we all cry our faces off! Seriously, we are living away from the ones we love...and that sucks. Plain and simple, sucks.

I am such a crier and I definitely look to my SO to comfort me, to keep me focused on the positive, and to make me laugh. We have had some of our most touching moments when I've been bawling my eyes out and he has said the perfect thing or he makes me laugh.

Sometimes he sings to me to make me feel better (Hakuna Matata or sometimes he'll sing to me the song that I wrote him......awww *swoon*

[Luisina]

- We haven't had any reunions, and we're not going to for at least ½ a year.. so I won't have to worry about many goodbyes... I just had the one about a month ago :/

Of course I'd been prepared to cry my eyes out at the airport.. I've always been an emotional person, and the last few weeks up until his departure had been a rollercoaster for me... not for our relationship - but me, trying to cope.
But I hadn't expected it to be SO bad!!
Standing there before security, I just couldn't let go of him.. I kept dragging him to the end of the line again, just to have a few more minutes.. time was passing, he had a deadline to make and we had to say goodbye.. which was heartbreaking.

Through a haze, I saw him walk through security.. - just then realizing that I'd just touched him for the last time in ½ a year. And I broke down. Completely.
I'd never experienced anything like it before..
I just stood there shaking all over, crying.. I was really hot, dizzy, couldn't breathe or think, my vision was completely blurred and my head feeling like it might explode.. I began walking away but I had to stop at a nearby wall for support because my legs were shaking and I couldn't focus.. it was awful!
I must've looked terrible, because a woman at security came up to me, asking me if I was okay, checking me, feeling my forehead and said that I had to sit down because I was having a severe panic attack.. She wanted to call for some medical assistance, but I refused saying that I'd be okay. I mean, I still felt really dizzy but at the same time I now found the whole situation kinda embarrassing.. She insisted on keeping me for observation, though, cause I wasn't fit to go anywhere..

I never, ever want to experience something like that again! Losing control like that..
And going home afterwards, I don't think I'd ever felt so empty before.. nothing made sense, every little task seemed impossible to overcome..

When we talked a few days later, my SO asked me how I was and I told him about it.. He felt terrible.. not that it had been his fault in ANY way, but I guess him realizing that he'd been right there in the building at the time and not knowing, was kinda hard for him.

On the positive side, I feel MUCH better today.. and I know that with a "goodbye" like that our future "hello" will be absolutely amazing! <3