First and foremost, me and my girlfriend have been in an LDR for over a year now, I think around 15 months total. She lives in North Carolina and I live in Texas. With our financial situations it's barely possible to see each other every 3-4 months. She's had some self-harm problems in the past, but I've been doing my best to try and help her with them. I love her very much and care about her even more. But lately things have been going kinda badly.
Apparently over the last few weeks, she has been feeling 'distant' in her words. Tonight she just flat out said that she didn't have the strong feelings for me like she used too. Now, this isn't the first time she has said this, and this usually happens whenever we go an unusually long time without seeing each other, which with this visit it will be 4 months without being within 100miles of each other. But...she gave me an extended explanation, and I fear that shes serious this time. She says shes 'forgotten why its worth it to be in a long distance relationship with [me]'. So over the next couple weeks until I do see her again, I'm gonna try to bring back some of what we used to share. But I'm freaking out...nothing has changed on my end, I still love and care about her as much as I ever have, but evidently its not the same over there. Last December we had a close call when she almost broke up with me for someone else, I gave her benefit of the doubt and she chose me. What happened between us in December took a long time to get to; she met a few guys, became good friends with one of them, and then I almost lost her. Things are slowly starting to happen like that again, and frankly I'm losing my mind.
I'm at a loss at what to do, if anyone can offer anything helpful it would be greatly appreciated, as I'm at the end of my wit
Thanks in advance everyone
Apparently over the last few weeks, she has been feeling 'distant' in her words. Tonight she just flat out said that she didn't have the strong feelings for me like she used too. Now, this isn't the first time she has said this, and this usually happens whenever we go an unusually long time without seeing each other, which with this visit it will be 4 months without being within 100miles of each other. But...she gave me an extended explanation, and I fear that shes serious this time. She says shes 'forgotten why its worth it to be in a long distance relationship with [me]'. So over the next couple weeks until I do see her again, I'm gonna try to bring back some of what we used to share. But I'm freaking out...nothing has changed on my end, I still love and care about her as much as I ever have, but evidently its not the same over there. Last December we had a close call when she almost broke up with me for someone else, I gave her benefit of the doubt and she chose me. What happened between us in December took a long time to get to; she met a few guys, became good friends with one of them, and then I almost lost her. Things are slowly starting to happen like that again, and frankly I'm losing my mind.
I'm at a loss at what to do, if anyone can offer anything helpful it would be greatly appreciated, as I'm at the end of my wit
Thanks in advance everyone
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