Hello! I know this might sound like a silly situation or question but please hear me out.
My partner and I are both Filipinos. Family is a very, very big thing for both of us. I'm the eldest child in my family. He's not the eldest child but he's the first son. We both have parents trying to get their retirement together and two younger siblings apiece to worry about.
My partner has been overseas for nearly two years now. So he hasn't met my family or had much cause to talk with them at all (apart from my younger sis, only because we were all studying in the same neighborhood once, years ago). On the other hand I have met his siblings and talked online to his mom, and at least his dad is aware of my existence in his son's life. To be fair, it was his siblings who reached out first to talk to me. Sometimes I have had to give my input on medical matters (being a doc in training) when a family member or friend has gotten into a fix. And during a family crisis, my partner asked me to drop by and see what I could do, on his behalf, to help.
It seems like a weird and unequal situation. Should I set limits on how much I interact or deal with his family, at least till he's home? How can I get my partner more involved in my family situation---just so my parents can feel that they won't be losing a daughter but gaining a son?
My partner and I are both Filipinos. Family is a very, very big thing for both of us. I'm the eldest child in my family. He's not the eldest child but he's the first son. We both have parents trying to get their retirement together and two younger siblings apiece to worry about.
My partner has been overseas for nearly two years now. So he hasn't met my family or had much cause to talk with them at all (apart from my younger sis, only because we were all studying in the same neighborhood once, years ago). On the other hand I have met his siblings and talked online to his mom, and at least his dad is aware of my existence in his son's life. To be fair, it was his siblings who reached out first to talk to me. Sometimes I have had to give my input on medical matters (being a doc in training) when a family member or friend has gotten into a fix. And during a family crisis, my partner asked me to drop by and see what I could do, on his behalf, to help.
It seems like a weird and unequal situation. Should I set limits on how much I interact or deal with his family, at least till he's home? How can I get my partner more involved in my family situation---just so my parents can feel that they won't be losing a daughter but gaining a son?
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