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[douglas2275]

Thank you everyone for your advice, i am however unable to take it. As some pointed out before, i kinda didnt do anything anyone said, i guess i was just looking for advice to help me fight for and improve my relationship. Not on whether is should be in it or not, which i know was the wrong additude but i must be honest. I realize that i should leave this community instead of seeking pity or attention. I am starting therapy again, its much needed. My Outlook on life is grim and it scared me. But i am seeking help. I dont want to continue drama so i belive this is goodbye.

I love her, im going to fight for her.

[Harlequin]

Your love is misplaced, because she sure as hell doesn't love you. No one worth their weight in salt, and no one who supposedly loves you would ever treat you the way she's treating you. You're making a mistake, but it's your mistake to make. Hopefully the therapy helps. So long as you're with her, you're going to need it.

[whatruckus]

I don't know, man. You seem to be self sabotaging yourself with these girls you get into relationships with. Brittany didn't treat you so well either, and now with this new girl... you're letting her treat you like you're piece of crap (you're not). You really do need to love yourself before you can be with any woman, because any woman that you choose to be with, before you love yourself, is just going to treat you like crap and walk all over you. Why? Because you allow them to. You don't think much of yourself, so neither do they.

But, like Harlequin said, you're making a huge mistake, but it's your choice.

I'm going to say it again: She doesn't love you. I don't really think you love her either, you love the idea of her, and love the idea of being in a relationship with someone because it gives you some sort of ego boost being with someone else. Regardless of if they treat you right or not. Seems like you jumped into this relationship pretty quickly after Brittany too. I think you're more afraid of being alone. That's why you won't fight for yourself, or stick up for yourself. You'd rather be treated like a piece of garbage than be alone.

Even when you were with Brittany, I told you something seemed off about her whenever you posted about her. I didn't think she treated you fairly. You went out of your way to do everything for her to make her feel loved and appreciated, and she threw it your face and yelled at you all the time (and from your other posts, cheated on you constantly), just like this new girl.

I worry about you. You're young. You deserve to be happy, and be with someone who treats you with love and respect. Not with disdain, neglect, and abuse.

[pizza_heart]

I love her, im going to fight for her.

So dramatic, man. You're 21 and from what I've read you get yourself into these telenovela situations once and again... please don't bail on therapy and don't fight for anyone who wouldn't fight for you.

[TheSteelAngel]

Hopefully the therapy will help you realize the truth of what's going on here. I agree with what whatruckus said because I believe I have told you the same thing before as well. It doesn't seem like you love her the way you think you do. You just love this idea of her and the idea of being in a relationship. I get that being alone is scary. I'm scared of being alone too, but what really scares me the most is having someone betray my feelings for them by treating me bad. She has threatened you with the cops dude. What more does she have to do to tell you that she doesn't even want you anymore. I hope that you will wake up from this nightmare you have made for yourself someday. I really do.

[Miasmata]

You're not really creating any drama here, you're more just entangling yourself in this web where you insist you gotta fight for something that harms you, daily. That is very, VERY selfabusive behaviour. Please stick with therapy, and please seriously consider what we told you before. Nobody has the right to threaten you with the cops, and nobody has the right to abuse you this severely. Not you yourself, not your partner, not anyone else. I'm really rooting for you that you realize this, and that you stop seeing love in people who have no love for you.