I am telling my parents

[always2far]

I have been in an ldr for the past 4 years, everytime I wanted to tell my family, I just couldn't. My parents don't like him and had told me to stop the relationship, but well, stoping didnot work out for us.
Anyways I am planning on telling them that I love him. But is really scary, please give me some advice.How do tell them??

[C.C.]

Why is it scary? I mean, I get it, you probably want them to accept him but don't forget one thing, you are an adult. You were an adult when you started dating as well.
Other than that, I think you should explain that you are serious, how long it has been and what you feel and to just make them understand you. However, if they can't and don't stop disliking him, then you shouldn't let them or their opinion dictate or affect your life. And don't forget, accepting or not, every parent deserves to know things like that.
Also, have you met in person? If so, you'll have even more ground to show them how real the love is despite it being ldr.

P.S. One question though, I don't get this.

My parents don't like him and had told me to stop the relationship, but well, stoping didnot work out for us.

Like, what exactly did they know about him that made them dislike you? Or what kind of relationship do you mean, if they didn't know you were together?

[always2far]

He didn't have a job then, and still had a few papers to clear. So they thought he was a slacker. Now he has completed his course and is doing post graduation. But that doesn't seem to change their opinion.!!

[R&R]

It comes down to you are an adult and they really don't have a say in the matter. They have to trust that they raised you to make good decisions. They also need to learn to let go and allow you to make your own choices. A parent has to understand that not all decisions our children make may be right, but that is how you learn and we should be there for you if it doesn't work. We should also be happy for you and proud of you when you make right decisions and things go well.

The best you can do is tell them and see what happens. They may think no one is good enough for their daughter, so you have to do what is right for you.

[always2far]

I just told my parents!! They think that because he has less salary than me we cannot be happy. I told them that we can be okay with that and that we have discussed it.
My dad has told me to stop talking to him for the next 1 year and see if he still loves me. It seems that he thinks that is the only way he can prove he loves me!!
I don't know what to do...

[Harlequin]

You not talking to him for a year is a way to get you to stop talking to him for good. Ultimately, this is your relationship. You need to do what you think is best to keep your relationship alive. Your parents have already decided they don't like your s/o, and that may never change, but it shouldn't affect how you view him. If he makes you happy and treats you right, then there's no reason for you to end it or to stop talking to him so he can "prove" his love for you.