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    Need advice once again.

    Hello, wrote a post not too long ago and I just want to say thanks to all of those who replied there.
    I need your advice/help once again.

    I feel that my SO might not respect me, but im not sure if Im overreacting.
    He sometimes blames me if he have not made his homework that day, because hes been waiting for me to log on.. I feel that whenever we are discussing he always wants to be right and makes me sometimes just give up on the discussion. Sometimes when we talk during the night and decide to sext he asks me to tell everything I want to do to him etc, but sometimes I cant think of anything at that moment which leaves him saying that he will just go to bed even if I ask him if we cannot just talk together, but he just wants to sleep now that I cant type anything new when sexting. He tells me that Im naive if I hope a gaming company will improve when it comes to developing their games, I often feel my opinions are not okay and rarely ask about how my day went. He wants to focus on games only, often focus on finding a game for us, which we have been trying for nights now and thats all we do, (watch vids of new game) installing them, deleting them because he afterwards dont like the game which leaves us with no games again and him frustrated and annoyed. One thing that bothers me is that the games mean this much to him.. Lately hes also been acting very cold, barely making smileys or only sad ones all day, when he normally used lots of happy ones which includes hearts etc. I feel that he sometimes end up feeling down if im going somewhere even if its just for a few mins. Whether its cleaning the kitchen, walking the dog and so on. He often tells me that hes tired of everything..

    Hes been depressed/feeling down for about two months now and last time i made a thread we had been through a huge argument and since that even though we ended up talking about it and such I have been feeling extremely tired every single day.. Whenever I get on the pc I just want to go back into bed again.. Im just too exhausted.. I have no idea if its because all of these things are tiring me or if its because of my (low metabolism which Im getting pills for) but, I have taking these pills for a long time and they never made me feel this tired.

    I just dont know what to do anymore. Im wondering if this relationship is getting too much for me to handle and its the cause of why im feeling so down lately and extremely tired..

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    I remember your other thread...I still strongly urge you to realize that you can't fix him. Offer to contact family or friends who could get him to a counselor / therapist.
    If you're feeling badly it's ok for you to seek help also.
    A partner...true partner is one who respects you, loves you and enjoys time with you IMHO.

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      #3
      Originally posted by Elizabeth123 View Post
      I remember your other thread...I still strongly urge you to realize that you can't fix him. Offer to contact family or friends who could get him to a counselor / therapist.
      If you're feeling badly it's ok for you to seek help also.
      A partner...true partner is one who respects you, loves you and enjoys time with you IMHO.
      We are supposed to meet tomorrow, I am going to take a plane to see him in the afternoon, but hes constantly negative still, he failed a class, which I understand how that is going to make him feel down, but even before he knew about this he still seemed extremely negative.. I tried to comfort him.. He got an exam on the 11th since he failed, but says he do not want to bother studying while im there which I thought was silly and it would be dumb(didnt use dumb) of him to throw everything away when he got 1 year left. My dad later during the night asked me what was wrong since he felt that I had talked kinda bad to him and ended up crying infront of him because of everything with my SO which led my dad to saying that he thought it was a bad idea that I was going since if hes negative every single day for 3 weeks when im there it would be too much for me.

      Im wondering whether I should go or not now, feeling insecure about it and worried hes gonna be negative every single day even though I know that might not happen.
      Hes never been like this before our meetings and normally its always us being excited about seeing each other, but he seems so negative constantly and extremely cold, just logging off and saying goodnight saying have a safe flight and then we end up talking a bit again... He told me "You really enjoy pissing me off lately", which I explained to him wasnt the case at all and I wish that he would have told me if what I said had gotten out of hand sometimes.. Instead hes just completely quiet and doesnt talk.
      Im confused about what I should do.. My family notice my bad mood because of this easier now and both my dad aunt and one of my sisters tell me that they are worried about me and how they are worried this is gonna break me if it continue.

      Not to mention that he often says "I adore you" instead of "I Love you" When he used to saying I love you back.
      Last edited by Laika; June 23, 2016, 04:47 PM.

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