I'm spending a few months in his country and I'm crazy nervous

[Bee'sknees]

Yup, that's what's happening. I was visiting my SO around Easter and when I came back home, I had one of the worst distance meltdowns ever. I was really struggling for a few weeks when usually it only takes a few days. Anyway, during the meltdown, I thought I can't do it anymore and because I work from home, I can pretty much travel freely how and when I want. So I decided I wanted to stay closer to him for a few months. I asked him if it's alright on his part and he seemed happy with the idea.

He lives with his roommates and I need my alone time so I thought it's better for now, if I get a place of my own and so I rented a studio in a big city half an hour away from him. I'll stay there for a couple of months and then I'll spend few weeks at his place before heading home again.

The problem is that now I'm crazy nervous. This whole relationship has always been LDR and the longest time we've been together nonstop is two weeks. Our relationship is close to perfect – we never really argue, we always make time for each other and all that jazz, but now I'm scared that something bad will happen when we're suddenly really close to each other. On the other hand, I'm excited to have kind of a trial move, but mostly I'm just sh*tting myself.

It's difficult to explain how I feel. I guess I'm scared he will get bored with me or something like that. I've told him that and he's been reassuring me and saying he will never get bored and he looks forward to everything we can now do, but I'm still hesitant.

I think it might because my local relationships, if you can even call them relationships, have never worked. Frankly, I've always dated douchebags in the past who never really cared much and always left at some point to find someone else. And of course I'm pretty anxious as a person anyway. I've tried telling myself that this is totally different and we actually care for each other, but it doesn't seem to be helping much. Living in a different country is stressful enough and now this. Help!

[C.C.]

I think you might have a worse concern about spending a few months there

[Ejoriah]

Regardless of how the Brexit will affect you...

... it is absolutely normal to be nervous whenever your relationship logistics change! For instance even though my husband and I dated short-distance, when we moved in together it was a huge adjustment. The dynamic of the relationship changes depending on how often you can see each other. If you can only see each other for a couple of weeks at a time and then go for long periods in between, it might feel like a vacation, whereas seeing each other day-to-day implies that you still both have to think about jobs/responsibilities/social obligations.

I think you are going about this the best way possible, tbh. Not many people get the luxury of a trial move and some are sometimes forced to move in together directly after being long distance. You'll get to experience dating close-distance and still have your own space to retreat to so that you don't get on each other's nerves. That's great! I get that you are nervous but objectively you're in a good position to put out feelers as to how a close-distance relationship might work. It's the logical next step for your relationship, and it's natural to be nervous. But it is also a positive thing and you should try to remind yourself of that when the nerves get to you too much (easier said than done, I know!).

Best of luck!