So much missing

[oinkpig329]

Hey everyone. Just need to vent for a minute. SO and I have been LD for 2 years now and unsure if that distance will close in 2 months or 2 years. I'm used to living far apart and visiting monthly. I'm used to his intense job and how that impacts our relationship. And I had gotten used to missing him but I'm just getting so tired of missing him all the time. In general I'm an emotional person so I just feel my emotions strongly, so carrying around missing him, even when I distract myself with friends or get to talk to him often I'm just tired from missing him. It's probably more strong right now because I just got to visit him and not have that feeling for a few days. Just needed to vent and see if anyone else out there understand where I'm at. (Please no unkind or sarcastic comments!)

[Redheart14]

Why are you unsure if it could be 2 months or 2 years? Have you spoken to him or at least made a plan? All I can say is hang in there. Is it worth not having him in your life to stop this pain of missing him? If no, then you know you can continue to push on. Just think it could be worse, you could have gone through this a lot longer like other members here. You've gotten this far, you can do it.

[oinkpig329]

Its a complicated situation. He's military and stationed there for two more years. He hates where he is and is trying to get out but the current way he's trying isn't likely to come through. The next hope is for me to move to where he is but he's stationed in a small town where there are very few job options to support my move, so if he stays there I'll apply to all the open jobs but there's not enough to guarantee I could get one. The plan is to be together as soon as possible but it's all very up in the air. Is it all worth it? Absolutely. And you're right it certainly could have been worse or longer. I just need a minute to not be strong and to be tired from missing him, and see if anyone else out there understands

[whatruckus]

If he's military, how would you two go about closing the distance? If you could. Does he live on base? Well, either way they won't cover you living with him unless he's married.

I think if you feel he's worth it, definitely hang in there.

Also, is there any bigger towns or cities in the area that you could maybe commute to?

[oinkpig329]

Thanks Whatruckus ☺ he is absolutely worth it! He lives on base but I would like to move into an appartment near base, we don't want to live together before we're married anyway. Unfortunately the nearest city is three hours away...thats that's a bit too much of a commute

[R&R]

You could also look for jobs on base. I've lived near a few bases and they hire civilians for many jobs. It depends on what your experience is and what is available at the time.

[oinkpig329]

Yes R&R! I've been looking actively on USAjobs...nothing yet!

[whatruckus]

Ugh, well that stinks.