How can you make changes work?

[RJ99]

My bf and I have been in a ldr for about 5 months now. It started out as us being inseparable and texting pretty much all day and skyping for hours in the middle of the night. This was for the first 3 to 4 months at least. Now, he is about to start college, and working a job that requires a lot of him. He is doing all of this and I am still working on getting through my senior year of high school and not really planning on a job. So, our time together has been cut wayyyyy back. I'm a little worried especially when his school starts that he will just not have time for me anymore but he swears otherwise. What advice can I get so that we can make things work a little more smoother and I can also keep living and doing what I Want? Because right now, I am just keeping my schedule open for whenever he can text and skype with me. I feel like if I don't, then who is really gonna make this work?

[R&R]

No one can consistently keep up the non-stop talking and texting. He is working a full-time job now and will be attending college. This is part of growing up and moving into the future. He has other parts of his life that are going to needs lots of attention. That doesn't mean you won't get any attention, but you can't be upset with him for putting focus on things that are going to be beneficial to his (and possible your) future.

A relationship should enhance an already full life. Don't sit around and wait for him to call. You need to live your life just as much as he is living his. It may be easier to set specific Skype dates or call times so that you have it planned and aren't just waiting around for a call that won't happen.

As far as who is going to make it work - you BOTH are. A relationship is not one-sided. It takes two parties working together. If you don't have that and you feel you are the only one putting in the effort, then maybe you need to reconsider the relationship.