Keep your chin up!

[staruletto]

I'm at that point in an LDR...you know the one (probably). Just after the first visit and you're not sure how to go back to living life like you did before. I'm still sad and it's been...almost 2 weeks now. But that's not why I'm posting. This is more for my guy. He hasn't really let on that he's down about it until today. I mean, i thought he was but he actually confirmed being lonely and feeling like things are pointless now and to be honest I have no idea what to say! It's like the bar was raised so high that it's hard to come back and it's does kind of worry me a bit because we don't have a set date to see eachother again (we're looking at april because I said the best birthday present he could give me is his presence ) and skype and games just...aren't the same anymore. I asked him to help me with learning Norwegian for a bit and that seemed to help him not think about it for a bit. I think I might write a letter (we haven't done any kind of letter exchanges) or send a gift or something. What do you guys do to cheer your s/o up in times like these?

[sasad]

It really does suck.....I am sorry. But it does get easier-ish, we just know what to expect each time.
I love to send mine care packages. He loves to fish and is on the beach so I theme them. I sent a beach bucket, with a note attached saying it was or our bucket list, fishing weights that said I fell for you, hook, line and sinker, a frisbee that said to se to toss our cares away etc., another was a date night one. Sent a ovie, candle, popcorn and a handwritten movie ticket.
He put together a shadow box picture ramen that had 2 pics of us, a piece from our first Christmas tree, shells from our first beac trip and chopsticks from our cooking class all arranged perfectly.
Come up with something tangible they can touch, feel, smell. .

[kittyxuchiha11]

I know that feeling all too well, it's only been 4 days and both SO and I are struggling to adjust to being apart again. But since we're apart again i've gone into crazy present making/giving mode and totally have everything present/letter i want to send her mapped out for the next few months. I like to make lil crafty things and write her letters as she enjoys receiving them and honestly isn't it always good to be able to do something and take your mind of stuff when it sucks. I'm planning on sending her a a care package next month (the first ever one!) to cheer her up and then in September I have flowers due to be delivered. I had flowers sent to her for the day after i left to cheer her up but because of some miscommunication she ended up only getting them yesterday, but they still cheered her up immensely and stuff seems to still be a little bit sad between us but i think we're both just trucking on through and of course the flowers always help

[staruletto]

Thanks for the advice ladies! I can't really buy or send anything there yet since I'm still broke from coming back (over a month off with no pay, I'm feeling it lol!). He talked me into starting up a ragnarok online character with him on a private server so we're doing that when we can in the meantime, though it's still difficult with time zone differences and work schedules. But I do finally get a full paycheck in a couple weeks finally and I might be able to do something nice! We're actually loosely planning out him coming here in April so he can meet my family and friends (and also it's my birthday, I told him the best gift he could give me is his presence lol). On top of that I'm seriously thinking about surprising him and going there in Feb for a week (Valentines day, obviously!). I get tips so I can easily save up enough for a plane ticket in a couple months time and since we're not doing a massive continental Europe road trip I don't need to save up a lot for expenses and I'm not going for nearly as long. Also February is a slow month in pet grooming everywhere since everyone gets their dogs groomed at Christmas time so I'm sure my boss won't mind at all.