This is getting extremely difficult.

[memyj97]

When I fell in love with him, I realized that this point in our relationship would come. And I know its the hardest. But, I didn't know that it would make me break under any other stress from my daily life. Same with him, everyday we spend all day at work just texting back and forth every hour or so thinking about how we can close the distance. We want not more than to be with each other right now. But, I feel like we're both too scared to visit because leaving is so hard. Yet, waiting for the next time we can see each other is literally killing us. How did you deal with this point in your relationship? I'll take all and any advice because I love him and I want to make this work. I hate seeing him so sad because of me but I love him too much to let him go. Without him I'm lost and I want to make him happy. What are just some little ways to make his day better?

[R&R]

My SO and I have been togeher just under 3 years. I haven't seen him in 13 months now. Chances are, the next time we see each other will be in November for our wedding. Closing the distance has been pushed back again for probably another year at minimum.

How do we get through it? But not focusing on what we don't have right now but what we do have. We have each other. We are in contact pretty much daily. We don't spend all day talking and texting because we have jobs and individual lives to lead. We know the end result will be us being together. We realize our relationship is a very important aspect of each of our lives but it's not our whole lives, so that also helps us not be so focused on each other and the distance. For me, over time it has gotten much easier because this is just how it is right now and dwelling on it isn't going to change anything. Attitudes and how you look at the situation are going to go a long way in how you deal with it.

[OtantikTin]

I haven't seen my SO in 2 months. Actually, as controversial as it may sound, talking all day/texting back and forth actually makes it worse, because you're always thinking of the other person and forgetting yourself; I did not realize that myself, my SO made me realize that. Personally, we text a good morning (which isn't always "good morning" but maybe simply a snapchat of the other in his/her bed smiling, or making breakfast), and we will usually call or send Snaps through the night and before we go to bed, it has been working alright for us so far. Although I DO have days where I wish we talked more, I know he is busy with work over there and I have to deal with it for the next 2 months to come.

There will always be days where you feel more down, and it's perfectly fine. For me, those days are the ones I spend with my friends who are ALL in relationships, I don't even have one single friend, literally. And they're all close or living with their SO. It can get hard, but it's temporary. Stay strong!

[memyj97]

Thanks so much for the reply!
Its so awesome to read your reply and actually relate to what you're saying. The whole third or fifth wheeling with all of your friends scenario really makes me wish my SO would talk to me more.
I also see what you're talking about when you say its better not to talk throughout the day. We have some very busy days where we exchange very little texts. But, that night when we get to skype is so nice! I get to to talk about my day and ask about his and almost forget that hes not sitting next to me.

Again, Its awesome to relate with someone about this topic. None of my friends have gone through what I am and its hard for them to comfort me when I am having a hard time simply because they don't understand. They tell me all the time they can't believe me and my SO have been together for so long and have such an awesome relationship. In summary its nice to know others have this issue and I'm not clingy or going crazy or something LOL