I hate feeling so useless

[QueenReginaMills]

I just hate feeling so useless right now. My SO's business is struggling, and I'm trying to do the best I can to support him, but I really want to be over there for real instead of separated by this stupid North Sea, I'm doing what I can from over here but I know it's not the same as actually being over there with him. Anyone else ever had that kind of frustration?

[Katy_G]

Yep I've been there. When my SO would get sick or just bogged down from work, he would often start wishing for just a hug or someone to be there with him. I'd ask "Anything I can do for you?" Sometimes it helped but I always wished I could do more. What little comfort I got from that was knowing that in some way he felt better just from my saying I was there with him.

[C.C.]

I think that's the curse of long distance relationships!

Last two nights I was sad and emotional and literally went to sleep imagining him cuddling with me in bed. A week or two ago his sister was sick so I really wanted to be there irl. There are just days when bad things happen to either of us and we know that if we were there physically we'd make things so much better.

But keep in mind that even if it's a online, it's a blessing to find someone you can truly lovs and as one of its aspects: share your stressful moments with. And as much as you can't directly help him nor be there physically, even your online presence and support mean a lot for him as well. Not more but still a lot.

[kittyxuchiha11]

I feel this just now, believe it or not i was sick last week and my SO felt super bad that she couldn't be here for me and just as I get better she gets sick and i now feel bad. The best thing to do is just try talk as much as you can and try cheer your partner up, if you cant just tell him you're here for him if he needs you and that will hopefully help him feel at least a little bit better :3

[sasad]

Yup yup! Best you can do to be honest, is be there in the capacity he needs at the moment. Sometimes an "I love you" or "You can do this, I believe" can make it sooo much better.
My SO would send me a card or flowers, small care package or e card even when I was stressing.. Can you send him a pizza or food if he's working late?
In any relationship, its being there for each other in the best way you can.

[QueenReginaMills]

Thanks all, that's what I've been doing, trying to keep talking and signed off our online chat yesterday with a list of reasons why I love him, and he told me it made him feel better, he did seem better today. It's hard, but I don't think anyone else would ever get me in the same way, and I would rather put up with the 300 miles to be with him than have any of the nightmares my friend has trying to find someone locally.

[Chris516]

I just hate feeling so useless right now. My SO's business is struggling, and I'm trying to do the best I can to support him, but I really want to be over there for real instead of separated by this stupid North Sea, I'm doing what I can from over here but I know it's not the same as actually being over there with him. Anyone else ever had that kind of frustration?

I know it might seem like quite a drive. But noting your locale, and his locale. Can you take the Channel Tunnel? You mentioned the North Sea. But would driving through France to get to Holland end up being a major pain?

[ethelynn]

I definitely can understand that feeling! When he is sick or feeling bad, I just so want to be there to take care of him. It's hard for me to see him not doing well, thats when the distance is the hardest. I'll offer you all the internet hugs to stay strong!