Just got stupidly upset over birthday

[QueenReginaMills]

Just got stupidly upset as it's my birthday tomorrow and it's one I'm going to have to spend without my SO. I knew this was going to happen when I got into the relationship, but it suddenly hit me when I saw the message he sent me when it became the right day in his time zone. And we both find ourselves with family commitments meaning we can't even have our usual chat. Any tips on coping with that particular issue?

[R&R]

Just got stupidly upset as it's my birthday tomorrow and it's one I'm going to have to spend without my SO. I knew this was going to happen when I got into the relationship, but it suddenly hit me when I saw the message he sent me when it became the right day in his time zone. And we both find ourselves with family commitments meaning we can't even have our usual chat. Any tips on coping with that particular issue?

I think it's a matter of realizing that it won't always be like this. My birthday & my SO's birthdays are November 8 & 10. Last year we didn't get to spend it together due to a difficult situation. We had the choice of being upset and dwelling on it or let it go and move forward. We chose to let it go. This year, not only are we spending it together but we are getting married on November 9th. Just remember, it's your mindset that is really going to help you.

[Katy_G]

I think it's a matter of realizing that it won't always be like this. My birthday & my SO's birthdays are November 8 & 10. Last year we didn't get to spend it together due to a difficult situation. We had the choice of being upset and dwelling on it or let it go and move forward. We chose to let it go. This year, not only are we spending it together but we are getting married on November 9th. Just remember, it's your mindset that is really going to help you.

Pretty much the same. My SO's birthday is April 4, mine is April 25. The best we could both manage on those days were longer phone calls than usual. But what helped was planning together how we'll spend our birthdays *next* year, here at home!

[sasad]

Same... mine was middle of a school week.. we made a "date" for the weekend...I loved the idea of him making more, special time for me on another less stressful day then trying to do a bunch of stuff with time constraints. Its a day.. I think because I grew up military and pretty much moved during my bday month that it doesn't mean as much to me. That make sense?

[Chris516]

Just got stupidly upset as it's my birthday tomorrow and it's one I'm going to have to spend without my SO. I knew this was going to happen when I got into the relationship, but it suddenly hit me when I saw the message he sent me when it became the right day in his time zone. And we both find ourselves with family commitments meaning we can't even have our usual chat. Any tips on coping with that particular issue?

It is only an hours difference between London, and Amsterdam.

But both of you having family commitments at the same time. that really bites.

[Redheart14]

It's only a day, as long as you make the time for each other it can be celebrated anytime.

[differentcountries]

I get upset over birthdays, too. I once saw on Facebook a video of him celebrating his - it was this year actually - with his family, in his home town, and while it was so nice to see him, and them, it also made my heart sink knowing I was not around. It is not so much the day in itself as knowing we loose out on so much of everything. I have less and less patience with the whole situation. I only dream that one day we will be able to make it not happen as much.