Distraction tips?

[marisas]

My boyfriend just moved a few days ago, he'll be gone for about a year. I'm located in Wisconsin, he is now in Florida. I just need some distraction tips to stop me missing him so much! I'm im college, but unfortunately took less credits so I have more time to visit him. This gives me a lot of down time. I also have a job, but it's only part time. I haven't made many friends in my city, just my roommates. Any tips for distractions, hobbies, fun ways to reconnect with my boyfriend? I'd love to hear your stories as well.

[yuunai]

Hi there!

First of all live your own life while he is away go out with your roomates, continue doing your current hobbies or take up new ones that will make your mind occupied Start jogging, doing some sports in your area maybe. You could start writing a story of your own, be creative, after all you would have a world to control (I've tried that, they got thousands of clicks *.*).

As for ur bf, If you are skyping with him, there's a lot of things you two can do. If you are into games, do that, or watch videos together, watch a movie together, start series, start a book and discuss it (sadly i cant do that with my bf, he's not so much into reading). At one point when we were really damn bored we just googled stuff like "would you rather questions' or there's a site caled geoguesser (its actually a lot of fun), or we are just chilling, both doing something else and talking (like now), plan your visits, where you will go, what you wanna visit, look at plane tickets together. I don't know, you can come up with a lot of ideas once you are bored. I'm studying psychology and on one class we played this game where you have to blindfold your partner and make him/her draw a simple drawing by telling him/her how to drag his/her pencil on the paper(like start there, go up, make a circle etc), so I decided to try it with him cuz I found it fun (we were doing it in paint and ofc no need for blindfold), it gave us something to do as well, or haha play cards against humanity online
As of right now this is all that came to my mind but there's tons more stuff to do Good luck, hope I helped some

[Katy_G]

Take an online class! Coursera.com and other similar sites have plenty of offerings in different fields, for free. It's even something you can do with your bf.

[QueenD]

I am a big fan of spending time at the gym. It can be a great place to make friends, working out can help manage mood and depression, and you have the added bonus of looking better naked when you see your boyfriend later! I go to a CrossFit gym, and community is a big thing. I'd been doing mostly personal training with the top coach for a while, but I need to distract myself from a few things too, so I am switching to doing half personal training and half CrossFit classes to reconnect with friends. I also entered a weightlifting meet on 10/15 to give me a goal to focus on. It's pretty exciting!

[ThePhoenixRises]

I agree with QueenD in regards to the gym! I used to go to a gym many years ago but stopped. My guy and I love the outdoors - and being that he lives in Switzerland (are they all part mountain-goat there? They are so fit!), there are quite a few mountains to climb, as you can imagine. So I decided that I should become more fit so that I can manage the tougher walks, as not only do we hike a lot in Summer, but I am also planning to Ski a lot in winter, I figured I needed to strengthen up my muscles and also do more cardio for general fitness. I find that going to the gym has a lot of advantages - gets me fit (main goal), I feel stronger and more healthy/happy, and it passes the time (I go every second evening). The additional benefit is that I look better, he noticed the change at our last visit (but I want to add that I do NOT go to the gym simply to look better for my SO, I do it for myself and my own fitness goals).

I find that once I get home, eat, and shower at night, it is almost time for bed, so in this sense, the evening goes by quickly. It does help though that I have a full time job that keeps me occupied Monday - Friday. On weekends, because I find weekends to be the worst as far as keeping busy, I now plan each weekend to try a new hike - somewhere that I haven't been before. That usually takes up an entire day on a weekend for me, and between getting all my chores done, sleeping in and the hike, my weekend now passes really fast.

If the gym isn't your thing, that is fine too - I also think what Katy has suggested is a great idea, perhaps enrol in some kind of class. Or you could try a meetup in your local area? What I try to do is look at my hobbies, and then try to find a group in the community or a class or something relating to the hobby (for example, I like horseriding, so I find a local group who perhaps go out once a week or month, I also like photography, and there are often groups for this that meet up once a week in certain locations, etc).