All the obstacles can seem very intimidating

[YCNando]

Hi guys. This is my first post here and I'm feeling kinda desperate.

I met this girl online who is the girl a man never thought that could actually exist. I don't mean that she is a perfect woman, I mean that she fits me like a glove, a way that no other woman would be capable of coming close to. Our relationship is very recent so we talked for extremely long periods of time. Then college started for her which reduced our time spent communicating by a lot. It's not easy because there is the 6 hour difference between Portugal and the US but I usually stay up until she needs to go. In one week my classes will start and my schedule is pretty heavy and I won't be able to cut on my sleep like I do. Basically we are left with a few hours each day.

I'm always very open with her about how I feel about things and about us so today I told her that I fear all the stuff we will have to fight against. It's very intimidating because I see her like a part of me that life is trying to take away from me. I never loved anyone this way, maybe noone at all. She's just unique.

All that fear consumed me today and I had one of those days with absolutely no inspiration at all to talk. She would try to come up with stuff but I just wasn't able to keep the conversation fun. She ended up leaving earlier than usual. I fear that today could have been the beginning of our downfall. It scares me so much because at this point she is one of the most important things in my life, one that I will fight for against everything I can. I'm very insecure and she knows it, it's something that we are working on but today it felt different. I'm even afraid I could lose interest on her...

I would like to know what you guys think about this, if you can relate or give me some advice and/or inspirational words. At this moment, I can take any help. If you have any doubt or question about anything, go ahead and ask.
Sorry if there is any mistakes, I'm still working on my English

[sasad]

Your relationship is 2 weeks old. Don't stress and try to force stuff. Learn how to be friends first.
We all get to a point where we don't talk as much, but we also know enough about each other to talk about it.
Confusing ?
I mean don't run before you walk... Let things develop naturally . But remember to communicate. Plan date times etc...

[YCNando]

First of all, thank you very much for replying. I appreciate your feedback very much.

As you said, we are only 2 weeks in. I know it seems kinda immature coming from a 18 year old and in such a premature relationship but I feel like I have known her for my whole life. The first picture she sent me had this caption "this is the everyday me" and she was just all comfy, messed up hair and no make up in a simple t-shirt. How many girls would send a guy a first picture like that? But I'm kinda avoiding the point tight here haha.

Today I told her how I felt, as described in my post, and she was able to bring me back up. The way she deals with me is crazy, she told me not to overthink about the future, focus more on our positives such as our love and care for each other, that we have to fight for our relationship and keeping it alive everyday and so on. She then ended by saying she cares about me. I don't know why but that's something I feel like I need to keep myself reminded of. She just rocked it.

Our day then proceeded beautifully like yesterday never happened and actually felt stronger about each other. I couldn't be more proud of her. I'll definitely try to keep myself more relaxed about this stuff and try to calmly move on because this is a very long run, there's no need to rush things.

[AlyYT7]

I made a video on my tips and advice and perhaps it could help!

[YCNando]

How can I watch it? I would really like to. And I appreciate your willingness to help.

[AlyYT7]

Yes of course! It won't let me post the link but if you go on YouTube and look up "How to Survive a Long Distance Relationship Aly" it should be the first to come up! I have a blue wall in the background!

[yuunai]

Hi!

I know that one school starts you can have less time to talk. I got to know my SO when I was in my last year in high school. I was living in dorms, no wifi there, only my mobile data, which means we could only chat (since my net is way too slow if they slow it down) and only in the evenings because I had to study a lot every day (5 hours in average, or sometimes I just took a 30mins break so I can talk with him that day then go back to studying till midnight...). My last year was really tough, I had several competitions in languages, languages exams, and final exams from may till june which pretty much decided which uni I can get accepted into. I was under pressure and was really busy and he was working but we still managed just fine (ofc there were days when we could talk a lot more, plus I went home on the weekends so we could skype.) Talking with him brightened my day up.
Then I got into college and honestly... ever since then we are skyping every day. I'm renting a flat so I have wifi, I don't have to study from one day to the other, or if I do it still doesn't take up much of my time, writing an essay is not that hard. What I wanna say with this is even she gets into college and gets super busy you can still manage don't worry just take some time out sometimes for a night date and dont organise anything there, especially considering that you have time zone difference as well

Don't overthink too much about how much you can talk, how you will lose interest in each other because it's not that easy. Cherish the moments you spend with each other, and as she said just try to focus more on the positive stuff. Also I can't stress this enough, if something is bothering you just tell her, talk to each other about it because communication is key in LDR

Hope I helped some!

[YCNando]

First of all I appreciate you very much for taking the time and effort to reply and trying to help, it means a lot to me to know that there are people who care. Thank you for sharing your story and giving me those encouraging words to keep this going, it definitely had an impact on me and raised my hopes for the future ahead. I hope everything goes well for both of you and I wish you all the best in life.

[YCNando]

I watched your video last night and it was very interesting. Any help I get is appreciated so I thank you very much for coming across me and recommending me your video. I found that information very useful and I'll definitely subscribe to your channel.

[Chris516]

YCNando, Can you prove your fears? I am not asking that like someone saying 'Prove you are as good as you say you are!'. I am saying that as way to trigger your mind to really hold your fears captive. Instead of your fears holding you captive.

[YCNando]

I don't know. I usually do it pretty well but not with my heart involved. I don't even know if I have the balls to break up with her if she cheated on me. It's just not easy at all...
I created a new thread a few moments ago, if you read it you can see exactly how my fears can hold me captive.
Either way, thank you for replying to my thread.