I need your advice (and a place to vent)..

[gamer_gurl]

I am so sorry to hear things are not going well right now. About trusting: as long as I feel that my SO and I can talk about anything, noone is really trying to avoid a specific topic, things work. You have to have a solid foundation in your relationship when it comes to communication, otherwise LDR does not work. I really hope the situation becomes more clear soon, so that you can make your decision. I wish you all the best and keep your head up!

thanks Arabella, yes, I decided to give him space and time. I will wait and see what he says and does.

funny, I remember him telling me back in March that if a guy is really into you, he will write multiple times a day to stay in touch ... that's why I kind of panic now, because he knows how to communicate. I don't need to tell him ..

Oh! He texted me while I was writing this! He says he loves me and asks me not to doubt it. I think I might have issues, insecurities, and having been cheated on, I am also quite guarded. But I love him, and I think for him I am willing to go through the hell of sorting myself out.

[gamer_gurl]

Having been cheated on in the past, I have felt guarded in the past, but with my current boyfriend things feel very different. I just know that I can trust him - its just a feeling that I have. He knows I have been hurt in the past and is very open and understanding. Right at the start he said that he wanted me to feel that I could ask him anything at any time.

Thanks Caza, yes, I have been cheated on and lied to as well. It is not easy to let someone new in after such experiences. It's great you can trust your SO, I really hope that my SO will be patient enough to let me work on that, and that he will help me by communicating more openly.

Thanks guys for the support, I really had no one to talk about it last night.

[xxcazaxx]

Even though this is a completely different relationship, why not share with him the fact that you have been hurt in the past. He might be able to understand more where you are coming from. Plus, we are always here if you need to vent

[gamer_gurl]

Yes, I think I will.

Today I wasn't reading his messages the whole day. In the morning he send the standard 'love yous', in the afternoon texts concerned I am not picking up messages or replying, later a missed phone call. After that call I couldn't delay any more, because I didn't want him to suffer as much as I had to when he was ignoring me .. so I sent him a text all is well. He tried to play it cool but I know he slightly panicked. Although I love when he writes and always reply straight away, today I am glad I didn't. Maybe it is slightly cruel but I am glad he got the taste of his own medicine .. if my explanations weren't enough, now he knows how it feels to be ignored.

He said he's coming to see me Monday :-)

I feel so much better, I wonder for how long, haha.

[xxcazaxx]

It will be good to have a face to face conversation about how you feel.