Hello, everyone I'm looking for some advice on how to deal with negative opinions about my relationship from my friends and also some of my family. I'm someone who likes to feel supported, but I don't have that in my life. I come from a very toxic verbally abusive household, I've had many rough obstacles in my life, and before I met my boyfriend I've never truly dealt with my past. He has been a huge positive support system for me, and I have done a lot of healing because of his help. I have been attending counseling for about 4 months, thanks to his encouragement and him being so understanding. Now that I feel like I am in a great place in my life mentally, and emotionally, I'm trying to share my happiness with my friends and family. As soon as I speak about my relationship and how happy I am with how well we have been progressing in our relationship, I get nothing but quick negative response, which sting badly and catch me off guard. from both friends and family. my family thinks its a waste of time, and my friends always assume he's cheating on me.
In July 18th I went to visit my boyfriend and spent a whole month with him, before school started. However, before I left my trip, my friends were so mean about me taking a month out of my life to go spend it with him. I'd assumed they'd be happy for me since they've seen my hardships in my life, and now that I am in a happier, healthier place, I'd thought they would be somewhat happy for me, but it was the complete opposite, they said how do I know he hasn't cheated on me, why am I wasting my money for "some" guy (he's my love), I should just find someone locally, its not going to work out. This conversation happened the last night before my trip up to see him. it left me completely crushed because I was out "celebrating" my trip to see him, instead I felt paranoid, and ganged-up on. Now to the present time, they refuse to talk about my relationship or acknowledge that I am in one. I just don't feel like I can be friends with them anymore, but sometimes, I let their opinions get to me, and somewhat believe what they have to say is real, this puts a strain in my relationship because my boyfriend is a good person, how do I cut that negativity out, or is my only option to cut my friendships.
We've been friends for 13 years, but I feel like I have nothing in common with any of them, like we are in different places in our lives.
My friends are out partying, sleeping around, while I'm committed, and growing, trying to make a future with my boyfriend.
Any advice on how to handle this situation?
thanks!!!!!
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