Open relationship

[joshuaex]

How do you guys feel about them and are you in one right now

[R&R]

Some people can make them work and some can't. It depends on the couple and how well each of them are able to handle the guidelines that have set for what they define as "open". For some, it means dating others but not physical interaction with others while some it means a free pass for sex with others.

Me, I wouldn't do it. I have my SO and he meets all my needs, wants and desires. I don't need another person in my life for any of that. I also don't want him having a romantic relationship with another female at the same time we have one. We have committed ourselves to only each other. If he wanted an open relationship, I would break it off and allow him to go live the life that he wants, but that life wouldn't include me.

[joshuaex]

Wow that's deep I'm in one right now not very happy about it but I am deeply in love with my girlfriend for 6 years she's in the one without actually seeing the person you are interacting with them physically

[R&R]

Wow that's deep I'm in one right now not very happy about it but I am deeply in love with my girlfriend for 6 years she's in the one without actually seeing the person you are interacting with them physically

If you're not happy then that is showing you that it's probably not for you. Are you in one because you want to be or only because this is the only way to be with her? If it's only to be with her - you certainly deserve so much better. She gets everything she wants while you only get a part of her and unhappiness.

[joshuaex]

Yeah you're right but she was my first girlfriend ever plus I know her family really well and she knows my family really well it didn't start off that way it was only me and her and now it seems like every year I'm in a different a love triangle with somebody she met online never physically saw touch him but still,

[joshuaex]

Now I find myself looking on online dating sites I would prefer not to but I'm doing it anyway

[80anthea]

I agree with R&R, they only work if both people are truly happy with the situation and it sounds like you aren't. I have friends who are in successful open relationships but I know I couldn't do it personally.

[joshuaex]

Recently she got a chance to see me we spend time together and even had sex, the next day after watching a movie she told me that she has a second boyfriend not physically seeing course I broke down and cried she said if you break up with me I understand And i said I love you too much to break up with you I've told her in the past I don't like love triangles and she does this multiple times this year

[CanadianGirl]

You seem really unhappy and while she's probably not intending to hurt you so much, she's not saying her primary relationship (you) is worth trying to be monogamous for. You will 100% be able to meet someone new and start over. Just because she happened to be first and you know her family well is no reason to be in pain for the rest of your life together. Sorry OP

[joshuaex]

She says it's not going to be like this forever, looking for a second relationship right now so I'm in an open relationship now

[R&R]

She says it's not going to be like this forever, looking for a second relationship right now so I'm in an open relationship now

If you do this, make sure you are doing it for the right reasons and it's because it's what you really want, not just because she is doing it. Also, you need to be up front with whoever else you are talking to that this is an open relationship and you already have a girlfriend.

Honestly, if you are almost 30 and so is your SO, I don't think it's something she's going to outgrow or change. She's found she can do whatever she wants because she knows you'll just suck it up and take it. I highly suggest you look into the books, youtube videos, live streams, etc with Charles J. Orlando. His big thing is "you are worthy" and I can tell that right now, for some reason, you don't think that you are.

[joshuaex]

Thank you I'll look into him and the other person I get into with I will tell them my situation I'm always up front with this kind of stuff it's important to let people know I never want to play with anyone's feelings, because it's not a good feeling hurt someone

[Chris516]

How do you guys feel about them and are you in one right now

I am not in one, never have been, never will be.

You are just opening yourself up to catching an STD.

[sasad]

I am not in one, never have been, never will be.

You are just opening yourself up to catching an STD.

The GF is having an emotional on line affair- not a physical one from what he post. The GF has never met up with the other guy ( or so she says)

[Harlequin]

I am not in one, never have been, never will be.

You are just opening yourself up to catching an STD.

The moment you decide to have sex, you're opening yourself up to catching an STD. You could have one partner, or one thousand partners, and still be safe. You could participate in orgies every night and be safe. You could lose your virginity to someone and get stuck with an incurable STD. It's about being smart and using protection.

To be on topic:
No, I've never been in an open relationship. That's not something I'd be comfortable with. OP, I think you're considering an open relationship for the wrong reasons. Please put yourself first, and don't feel like you're obligated to play along with this just because she wants to do it. If you're going to do this, make sure it's for the right reasons and make sure it's some thing you can emotionally handle.