Hi all, I am really in need of advice as I never faced any problems like this before. I am starting to get very depressed about my situation. I have been in an LDR with a girl for nearly 3 years now. I've met her in person and she has met me. Even though its been very hard for her, she has been patient and waited for me and I can't bare the distance either. We have planned to close the distance early next year. I'm planning to study my master's in her country and get a job and settle permanently over there with her. She has been very helpful for me. I have promised her that I would close the distance early next year and this is a promise I can't break.
I have been working in my current country and saved all my money for this very own purpose and to pay my expenses, I will take education loan and I won't be asking any money from my parents for this. I have worked very hard for this and because of my parents actions, I feel like I will lose everything. I'm 24, nearing 25 and I know I sound selfish but I want to start my new life and move out of my parents house. Couple of weeks ago, my father got into legal trouble and got suspended from his job for 6 months. He was arrested even though it wasn't his fault at all, he has gotten bail and he is home now. The court case will go on for 3-4 years. He is the only one who works in my family. The bank wants a family member to give surety for me to get my education load ( this is a mandatory rule in my country ). And now, I have very less chances of getting the education loan and my brother is telling me to drop my plans of studying and moving there. I planned this for nearly 3 years, worked hard and saved money and now I don't know what to do. I haven't told my gf about this yet.. I have supported and helped my father but why should I drop my dreams. I worked hard to improve my profile so I can join a good university and settle there. They have always been making me depressed since the beginning as my family members don't really have a good relationship with each other, I feel like they hold me down and now I feel lifeless.
Should I tell her everything that's happening? I don't want her to keep waiting for me and hurt her, If I'm stuck here, I will tell her to find someone else. To be honest, she was the one who supported me when I was unemployed and has been very positive partner for me. I owe her my success. Please help..Should I bring this issue up with family and ask them whether I need to drop my plans of studying masters?
I have been working in my current country and saved all my money for this very own purpose and to pay my expenses, I will take education loan and I won't be asking any money from my parents for this. I have worked very hard for this and because of my parents actions, I feel like I will lose everything. I'm 24, nearing 25 and I know I sound selfish but I want to start my new life and move out of my parents house. Couple of weeks ago, my father got into legal trouble and got suspended from his job for 6 months. He was arrested even though it wasn't his fault at all, he has gotten bail and he is home now. The court case will go on for 3-4 years. He is the only one who works in my family. The bank wants a family member to give surety for me to get my education load ( this is a mandatory rule in my country ). And now, I have very less chances of getting the education loan and my brother is telling me to drop my plans of studying and moving there. I planned this for nearly 3 years, worked hard and saved money and now I don't know what to do. I haven't told my gf about this yet.. I have supported and helped my father but why should I drop my dreams. I worked hard to improve my profile so I can join a good university and settle there. They have always been making me depressed since the beginning as my family members don't really have a good relationship with each other, I feel like they hold me down and now I feel lifeless.
Should I tell her everything that's happening? I don't want her to keep waiting for me and hurt her, If I'm stuck here, I will tell her to find someone else. To be honest, she was the one who supported me when I was unemployed and has been very positive partner for me. I owe her my success. Please help..Should I bring this issue up with family and ask them whether I need to drop my plans of studying masters?
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