Breaking up....give him space?

[kau8892]

My boyfriend and I have been together 9 months today. We were college sweethearts and separated by 28 years until we had reconnected and rekindled our relationship. We both were very focused on our careers and we are in a place where we get a second chance. We have the resources to make this work and he was very enthusiastic in the beginning. Then the distance set in and he and I have been struggling. We both have kids from our first marriages and we are on opposite schedules with custody. Unfortunately my ex follows it to the letter. We both travel a lot for work. Lucky for me I travel west to his location. So every other week we have an opportunity to spend anywhere from 2-6 days together. Problem is he hasn't introduced me to his daughter so on average we see each other for 2 days. He has met mine. Because I haven't met his daughter it makes it hard to get together and he's not a fan of technology either. He makes an effort Talking and texting but it's not his favorite. The way it looks is that we cannot make much of a plan to be together for 6 years until my daughter graduates. He has been becoming distant. Today he told me that he cannot do this anymore. It's too hard. He does love me and if we were in the same location this would work...he's confident in that. We plan on continuing to stay in touch. I feel we never really made a plan to work on this because I had never met his daughter. Do I walk away and give him space? I still fly out for work and have opportunities to see him. I'm so broken hearted. We got so close again.

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Welcome to LFAD!

If you are breaking up, definitely give him space. It will help you, too, to take time for yourself and regroup. I would consider doing a relationship autopsy on the relationship (as I do for any relationship that is ending). Link

[Chris516]

My boyfriend and I have been together 9 months today. We were college sweethearts and separated by 28 years until we had reconnected and rekindled our relationship. We both were very focused on our careers and we are in a place where we get a second chance. We have the resources to make this work and he was very enthusiastic in the beginning. Then the distance set in and he and I have been struggling. We both have kids from our first marriages and we are on opposite schedules with custody. Unfortunately my ex follows it to the letter. We both travel a lot for work. Lucky for me I travel west to his location. So every other week we have an opportunity to spend anywhere from 2-6 days together. Problem is he hasn't introduced me to his daughter so on average we see each other for 2 days. He has met mine. Because I haven't met his daughter it makes it hard to get together and he's not a fan of technology either. He makes an effort Talking and texting but it's not his favorite. The way it looks is that we cannot make much of a plan to be together for 6 years until my daughter graduates. He has been becoming distant. Today he told me that he cannot do this anymore. It's too hard. He does love me and if we were in the same location this would work...he's confident in that. We plan on continuing to stay in touch. I feel we never really made a plan to work on this because I had never met his daughter. Do I walk away and give him space? I still fly out for work and have opportunities to see him. I'm so broken hearted. We got so close again.

Give him space.