she abandoned me :(

[shaddy]

My name is Samuel... I met Anna on instagram... We were so much in love or i was in love.... I am from africa and in my tribe in africa i am the son of a leader... I loved this girl so much... She is from Italy ...back in africa our tradition obliges leader to get married to a lady from the tribe.... In fact my parents adopted me because they did not have a son who will become the next traditional leader.... I am not thier biological child... My dad actually loved me as a son but he is no more... My mom did not really appreciate the fact that i will inherit of all what my dad worked for.... She became bitter to me.... Now i did not abide to the idea of getting marry to a girl i did not love.... So the day i had to inherit was the day i was suppose to marry this girl.... My mom had menaced me because of my relationship with Anna but i will always'' she loves me and that is all what i need'' my mom said she will no more pay my tuition fees in a medical school.... I told her even if you hang me i will always love anna....as i said earlier the day of the fake marriage they did for me... I was no where to be found.... I did 3 weeks no one knew where i was only Anna knew.... When i came back the whole family and my mom decided to ban me from our family and the community( no one should talk to me nor help me)... In fact it did not affect me because i knew Anna loved me and we will be happy together.... I was homeless... Did not have food to eat etc... Life wasn't easy for me but my love for anna grew up day after.... Finally i had a hut where i live.... Anna suddenly got mad at me because in one year of relationship we had fought 3 times and she can't stay with a guy who fights with her.... I told her i am sorry if i misunderstood you or whatever... She decided to abandon me in this ssituation ....in fact because we did not have the right to fight.... I need your opinions abouts this.... I can't have a new life where i am because i was banned.... Anna is 21yrs
I am 19yrs.... I met here i was 18 and she was 20

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[Chris516]

My name is Samuel... I met Anna on Instagram... We were so much in love or i was in love.... I am from Africa and in my tribe in Africa i am the son of a leader... I loved this girl so much... She is from Italy ...back in Africa our tradition obliges leader to get married to a lady from the tribe.... In fact my parents adopted me because they did not have a son who will become the next traditional leader.... I am not their biological child... My dad actually loved me as a son but he is no more... My mom did not really appreciate the fact that i will inherit of all what my dad worked for.... She became bitter to me.... Now i did not abide to the idea of getting marry to a girl i did not love.... So the day i had to inherit was the day i was suppose to marry this girl.... My mom had menaced me because of my relationship with Anna but i will always'' she loves me and that is all what i need'' my mom said she will no more pay my tuition fees in a medical school.... I told her even if you hang me i will always love anna....as i said earlier the day of the fake marriage they did for me... I was no where to be found.... I did 3 weeks no one knew where i was only Anna knew.... When i came back the whole family and my mom decided to ban me from our family and the community( no one should talk to me nor help me)... In fact it did not affect me because i knew Anna loved me and we will be happy together.... I was homeless... Did not have food to eat etc... Life wasn't easy for me but my love for Anna grew up day after.... Finally i had a hut where i live.... Anna suddenly got mad at me because in one year of relationship we had fought 3 times and she can't stay with a guy who fights with her.... I told her i am sorry if i misunderstood you or whatever... She decided to abandon me in this ssituation ....in fact because we did not have the right to fight.... I need your opinions about this.... I can't have a new life where i am because i was banned.... Anna is 21yrs
I am 19yrs.... I met here i was 18 and she was 20

Whatever the fights were about. Just because she is female. Does not automatically mean. That she was right in accusing you of fighting with her. For all we know, you may have been justified.

An example of what I am getting at is. In a previous relationship 10+yrs. ago. My (ex)fiance accused me of fighting and 'controlling' her. When she was about to stick a metal knife in a plugged-in toaster. She came very close to electrocuting herself.

The point is. Just because a female accuses you of something. Doesn't mean, automatically. That she is right, in her accusation.

[sasad]

Whatever the fights were about. Just because she is female. Does not automatically mean. That she was right in accusing you of fighting with her. For all we know, you may have been justified.

An example of what I am getting at is. In a previous relationship 10+yrs. ago. My (ex)fiance accused me of fighting and 'controlling' her. When she was about to stick a metal knife in a plugged-in toaster. She came very close to electrocuting herself.

The point is. Just because a female accuses you of something. Doesn't mean, automatically. That she is right, in her accusation.

Wth does that have to do with his situation? Omg do you always have to have a comparison with your past all the time even when it's irrelevant? I am sorry, but this is just getting to the point of ridiculous

[Chris516]

Wth does that have to do with his situation? Omg do you always have to have a comparison with your past all the time even when it's irrelevant? I am sorry, but this is just getting to the point of ridiculous

I don't have to justify my response to you. I draw on my past experiences, as a way illustrating, to never be 100% satisfied with the status quo. I was supporting him. If you don't like it, tough luck!!

[sasad]

I don't have to justify my response to you. I draw on my past experiences, as a way illustrating, to never be 100% satisfied with the status quo. I was supporting him. If you don't like it, tough luck!!

No, you are always making it about how all these 'ex,s' done you wrong etc.. it was hard enough keeping quite when you mentioned a high school girl being so attractive at a dinner and how great you were to your so for not falling into it ..

While some people can and do like empathy, you stretch everything to either be all about you, or you call the other a scum bag. Go look at your post and see how you stretch everything to be about you.

Take critics constructively and stop being such a defensive attack back person. Oh and please don't waste my time responding with another on of your stories.

[Stanislava]

Maybe try to connect with her and explain that fights are absolutely normal in relationships as long as they are not super violent and abusive. If even then she refuses to continue the relationship i guess you should let it go. I'm so sorry to hear your family was this restricting to you and forcing you to marry someone you don't love i wish you all the best

[Chris516]

No, you are always making it about how all these 'ex,s' done you wrong etc.. it was hard enough keeping quite when you mentioned a high school girl being so attractive at a dinner and how great you were to your so for not falling into it ..

While some people can and do like empathy, you stretch everything to either be all about you, or you call the other a scum bag. Go look at your post and see how you stretch everything to be about you.

Take critics constructively and stop being such a defensive attack back person. Oh and please don't waste my time responding with another on of your stories.

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