My boyfriend and I have been dealing with the LDR pretty well so far. It was a little rocky at the beginning because I had a lot of anxiety and insecurities about him being far away and us not talking enough (we were a very new couple when he moved away). Thankfully we've been able to get into a groove of seeing eachother once a month or once every three weeks.
I spent Thanksgiving on a week long trip with his family and he's spending Christmas with mine. I'm so thankful for the time we've had together because I know that we are very lucky in that aspect.
Lately, I've had a few friends bring up the idea of closing the distance and it's got me thinking about that next step. He has a new job that he worked hard to get so it would be me who would move. I wouldn't move to the city unless it was moving in with him. I'm a teacher which makes getting my own place hard, and if I'd need a roommate, I'd want it to be him.
Being a teacher means I have a small window of opportunity in which to move if I were to. Essentially- April and May would require that decision so that I could begin applying to schools for the following school year. That would be a year after our first date and about a year and a half after we first began talking.
I know that he and I are still a newer relationship and that at just about 7 months I don't intend on bringing up the idea of me moving any time soon. But my question is how to begin introducing that idea into our relationship with enough time for us to think and talk about it without having to rush the decision.
Would I move to him next summer? Absolutely. I know that's where my heart is and that scares me to think about uprooting my life like that. He mentioned something in a conversation back in October that was something like "Well if a year from now you were living in Savannah." It wasn't about me moving there necessarily but more about something we'd be doing if I was.
I'm very serious about this man and I cannot wait for more visits between us so the relationship continues to grow. I just want to make sure I don't bring up the idea of closing the distance too soon but also not too late for my career.
I spent Thanksgiving on a week long trip with his family and he's spending Christmas with mine. I'm so thankful for the time we've had together because I know that we are very lucky in that aspect.
Lately, I've had a few friends bring up the idea of closing the distance and it's got me thinking about that next step. He has a new job that he worked hard to get so it would be me who would move. I wouldn't move to the city unless it was moving in with him. I'm a teacher which makes getting my own place hard, and if I'd need a roommate, I'd want it to be him.
Being a teacher means I have a small window of opportunity in which to move if I were to. Essentially- April and May would require that decision so that I could begin applying to schools for the following school year. That would be a year after our first date and about a year and a half after we first began talking.
I know that he and I are still a newer relationship and that at just about 7 months I don't intend on bringing up the idea of me moving any time soon. But my question is how to begin introducing that idea into our relationship with enough time for us to think and talk about it without having to rush the decision.
Would I move to him next summer? Absolutely. I know that's where my heart is and that scares me to think about uprooting my life like that. He mentioned something in a conversation back in October that was something like "Well if a year from now you were living in Savannah." It wasn't about me moving there necessarily but more about something we'd be doing if I was.
I'm very serious about this man and I cannot wait for more visits between us so the relationship continues to grow. I just want to make sure I don't bring up the idea of closing the distance too soon but also not too late for my career.
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