Hello guys, i really need advice on something...
This summer i met an amazing guy, he was literally me (same personality) and as incredible as it seems, he was my type. We met in weird circumstances, and he was the one chasing me, i thought it would end in like a summer fling. But he asked for us to try a ldr.
However, things (as usual) didn't go quite the way i wanted them to go.
He asked me to be his gf, but i said no because we had just met in a week and i didn't really know him that well. He continued to ask and to say how much he liked me, so i ended up saying yes a couple of days later (at that point he was already in his country again). We would talk non-stop everyday, facetime like 2/3 times a week, until the summer break ended. We stopped texting as much, but we still were lovey dovey and tried to facetime when we could. I got to visit him in november and it was wonderful BUT (a couple of weeks before, I asked him again what we were and this time he answered that he didn't know, that he wanted to make it official when i was there to visit, but we talked there and he was still on that "i don't know what we are" vibe). I said ok, because i really don't need to be his girlfriend, i really like him and being able to talk to him was enough. That was one month ago. Today i was very unsure of where we stand... He parties a lot, like every weekend but i don't mind, because that's just how he is, and i go to a bunch of parties myself. I know he's faithful, i really trust him and because of our pasts i know he (or even me) wouldn't be able to do that to the other person.
The thing is.. I haven't seen him (or skyped) in a month... Our conversations are not "cute" anymore, just chat and banter which made me feel like i was being friend zoned, because everytime i tried to be cute, it felt like he was "dodging" it. Today i asked him again what we were and he is still unsure about what i mean to him... He says i mean something to him, but he doesn't know what, and that he wants to keep chatting and see where this goes... I feel like we are regressing in our "relationship".. this started out as him chasing me, then us being completely into one another and now we are like this... I really like this guy, and he is genuinely a nice guy, his mom even knows about me and sometimes chats with me on facebook. I know he cares about me, but to what extent? I don't want to be stuck in this indecision of his this whole time... But i really do like him and want this to work... Ugh the distance is killing me, because if i could only speak to him personally... It's stupid the amount of things we have in common and how well we get along! I really want this to work and need advice.. Anyone out there that was in a similar position?
(ps: my story is being cut reaaaally short, there were things going on these 4 months, but i don't want to make this a long as* thread)
This summer i met an amazing guy, he was literally me (same personality) and as incredible as it seems, he was my type. We met in weird circumstances, and he was the one chasing me, i thought it would end in like a summer fling. But he asked for us to try a ldr.
However, things (as usual) didn't go quite the way i wanted them to go.
He asked me to be his gf, but i said no because we had just met in a week and i didn't really know him that well. He continued to ask and to say how much he liked me, so i ended up saying yes a couple of days later (at that point he was already in his country again). We would talk non-stop everyday, facetime like 2/3 times a week, until the summer break ended. We stopped texting as much, but we still were lovey dovey and tried to facetime when we could. I got to visit him in november and it was wonderful BUT (a couple of weeks before, I asked him again what we were and this time he answered that he didn't know, that he wanted to make it official when i was there to visit, but we talked there and he was still on that "i don't know what we are" vibe). I said ok, because i really don't need to be his girlfriend, i really like him and being able to talk to him was enough. That was one month ago. Today i was very unsure of where we stand... He parties a lot, like every weekend but i don't mind, because that's just how he is, and i go to a bunch of parties myself. I know he's faithful, i really trust him and because of our pasts i know he (or even me) wouldn't be able to do that to the other person.
The thing is.. I haven't seen him (or skyped) in a month... Our conversations are not "cute" anymore, just chat and banter which made me feel like i was being friend zoned, because everytime i tried to be cute, it felt like he was "dodging" it. Today i asked him again what we were and he is still unsure about what i mean to him... He says i mean something to him, but he doesn't know what, and that he wants to keep chatting and see where this goes... I feel like we are regressing in our "relationship".. this started out as him chasing me, then us being completely into one another and now we are like this... I really like this guy, and he is genuinely a nice guy, his mom even knows about me and sometimes chats with me on facebook. I know he cares about me, but to what extent? I don't want to be stuck in this indecision of his this whole time... But i really do like him and want this to work... Ugh the distance is killing me, because if i could only speak to him personally... It's stupid the amount of things we have in common and how well we get along! I really want this to work and need advice.. Anyone out there that was in a similar position?
(ps: my story is being cut reaaaally short, there were things going on these 4 months, but i don't want to make this a long as* thread)
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