Lost in a LDR

[LostInLove86]

My guy and I have know each other since high school. We had a mild flirtation then, after 12 years of going our separate ways and living life, through a mutual friend we reconnected, now we live about 1,000 miles away from each other. When we reconnected I swear we spent every moment on the phone with each other, talking, texting, etc. We took about 2 months to get to know each other again and then he asked me to be his gf, soon after we admitted we loved each other. Now we have been official for 2 months.
His work is sort of unconventional where he works all night and sleeps during the day to do it all again. And for the past 2 months we barely have spoken on the phone, and text msgs have dwindled. I use to get a rrolt within minutes if not seconds, now it's a replied to within several minutes if not hours. I've already made the claim that it bothers me twice and he basically has said that he is doing what he can and isn't going to change how things are going because his job (which is his dream) is VERY important to him. Which I get and I DON'T want to make him choose between me or his dream, I just want to have time with the man I love. It's not easy to get to see each other, as both of our lives don't allow much time away. But I can't help but getting upset and feeling a little...crazy, when all I get is him sharing posts to see on Instagram and the occasional text msg like, I miss you, I love you, etc. He has even expressed to me he thinks I'm his soulmate. But I don't get how you can feel this way and not make time for me?
I don't want to seem like a super needy gf or a spoiled brat. But I feel like we dont have a normal relationship where we go on dates and hold each others hands. We only have text and phone calls to keep us together and even that is now something that is not really happening. He sends me msgs every day, but it just does seem like enough for me.
I understand that we are adults and want of live a certain lifestyle, so we both have to work hard. I have a 7 am to 3 pm, I go to the gym regularly, have a family I help out a lot, and I am also busy trying to bring a magazine to life....but I still find that I have time for him. Am I doing something wrong, asking for too much? I don't want to break up with him, I want to fix it, but, I almost feel as if he treats this relationship like it's a no brainer... we are together, that's it...no more trying. I really would hate to bring it up again as I have already twice. As of right now we haven't spoken on the phone since Christmas day except for sharing instagram posts and the small talk text msgs we exchange.
I'm lost in this situation, it's my first LDR, I really love him and I don't know how to handle this, which is why I'm reaching out..

[sasad]

Just to clarify....he sends you texts everyday, but not fast enough? Not seconds, but minutes or hours later?
He says you are his soulmate, and tells you he loves you?
He works the night shift doing his dream job, you work day hours, and daily contact isn't enough.

He says he is doing the best he can, and tbh, he is still living his life and living his dream, and including you, just not making his life all about you, which is the way any relationship should go.

Asking him to respond within seconds is unreasonable.

If you want a different type of communication, then offer a solution. Like Tuesday at 5 is date Nate etc., and stick with it.

Ldrs are hard, and compromise is required as well as communication. But needy and clingy will kill that over time.

[LostInLove86]

Thanks for the reply. I definitely don't expect a response within seconds, as you said that's unreasonable. It was just an example of how things have changed. But I will definitely see how a "date night" can help. Again, thanks.

[differentcountries]

We all want time with the people we love... but if you work opposing shifts, it is either going to be limited contact between visits or one of you have to change up your shifts. It is really simple.

[kittyxuchiha11]

Like sasad has suggested you should definitely try have a date night once a week/every two weeks as just sort of a time for you both to put everything aside and and catch up. My SO and I have an 8 hour time difference so by the time she finishes work it's 2am for me, and with me going to college i have to be up for class at 7am so as you can imagine i can't just stay up until 2am to talk to her every night and she understand that We message throughout the day and we'll sometimes send little voice messages on breaks sometimes but apart from that we dont have a whole lot of time to sit down and actually talk. So we have a date night on a Saturday because we're both off and can stay up late to talk. During these we either play a game together and voice chat while we're doing that, or just skype and have a nice chat and maybe answer some couple questions or draw together.

Date nights work really well for us because of our situation and by the sounds of it, it could really help you guys too. Good luck :3

[Chris516]

OP, What is/are his dream/dreams?