Gaming is ruining my relationship

[InLoveToHard]

So I was talking well texting with my boyfriend, I know he isn't the biggest fan of texting because 1. It is annoying and 2. I knownwhen he plays is games that he gets focused in and I don't want to disturb that and I'd rather just let him play his game since he hates texting anyways and you would think it isn't a problem that I do that right? WRONG, I get these texts back "guessing you don't want to talk to me" and I respond saying "u said u don't like to text lol" then he says "I don't just kinda seemed like you wanted to go" so I responded "No but Ik how focused in u get on ur games and texting doesn't help u focus in on that" innocent enough honest message right? Well this is the response I get from saying something so innocent "Whatever then just fucking go then so sick of this game shit ". I don't feel I said or did anything to receive a response so hostile and defensive. We both have Saturday-Monday off and each day he is on his games from the time we wake between 1-3 pm until about 530 am or so...I mean am I wrong for wanting some time or bringing up to him that he isn't paying much attention to me or anything ?

[R&R]

Since you already have a thread going - it's easier just to stick to one.

https://members.lovingfromadistance....-at-this-point

[Desthro]

This is going to be difficult advice to hear, but let's be frank, he's not at all helping the situation, nor is he listening to you.

It's hard, because his gaming habits are damaging his relationship with you, and possibly others. And instead of owning up to it, he continues to play games. That fits the definition of an addiction. Is he addicted? I don't know, but it sounds that way. You can try a few things like trying to play games with him, (even if you don't find them interesting, you might find that they aren't all that bad), if he's not interested in that you can explain how you are feeling, see if he'll listen, and go from there. There's no need for that kind of behavior. I love my games too, but I'd never play my games when I can spend time with my SO. (She plays games too so it definitely makes it easier I'd say she was even more of an avid gamer than myself!!!) Sometimes people just aren't ready for what a relationship takes, and he may be in that boat.

[sasad]

This is going to be difficult advice to hear, but let's be frank, he's not at all helping the situation, nor is he listening to you.

It's hard, because his gaming habits are damaging his relationship with you, and possibly others. And instead of owning up to it, he continues to play games. That fits the definition of an addiction. Is he addicted? I don't know, but it sounds that way. You can try a few things like trying to play games with him, (even if you don't find them interesting, you might find that they aren't all that bad), if he's not interested in that you can explain how you are feeling, see if he'll listen, and go from there. There's no need for that kind of behavior. I love my games too, but I'd never play my games when I can spend time with my SO. (She plays games too so it definitely makes it easier I'd say she was even more of an avid gamer than myself!!!) Sometimes people just aren't ready for what a relationship takes, and he may be in that boat.

Thanks for response, but the OP has 2 threads with same topic.. pls respond to original link R&R sent to avoid confusion.