His mom takes everything out on me..

[Morganichole]

So i've know my current boyfriend for almost five years, and we've been dating for only 7 months. He is in alaska and i'm in texas as of now. I've always had an awesome relationship with his family and there's never been a problem until recently. My boyfriend got into a pretty serious disagree over christmas with his family and his mother started ignoring me and kind of taking it out on me because my boyfriend wasn't talking her. So now moving past that they ended up getting over it... But now they got in another disagreement which my boyfriend was totally in the wrong which i told him plenty of times, but his mom has been taking it out on me comepltly. Alittle background my family is military and his as well, and his step dad just got a job were my dad currently is at so he was going to move with them down here. Now she's basically threatening me that she's going to leave him in alaska and i won't see him unless i decide to go back.. I just don't even know what to do, i've always been super respectful and never done anything and she's acting like a child. I can't leave texas because i'm taking care of my mother whom had a stroke and my dad is deploying. I'm so stressed out i just need some advice or someone talk to talk honestly.

[Stanislava]

This is horrible I'm sorry you have to go through this is there a way to talk to her to explain everything?I'm going through a similar situation where my parents are being bad to my boyfriend... It's really frustrating.

[Mims27]

You BF needs to have a sit down/talk with his mom. He's an adult and should have his mom control his life like that and he should definitely stand up for you.

[Morganichole]

Right now it's hard because he just moved out of his own apartment to move in with his parents because he was moving here, i seriously love his mom and we've never had problems until recently, and i keep telling my boyfriend to talk to her but he works nights and she works days so they never even have time to talk. I'm super respectful to her and never rude and she's been constantly being rude to me lately...

[Sparkling72]

Maybe his mom is stressed out over the move... maybe let her know you're there for the family and you're supportive but that you're going to also give her some space. With little to go off of like that, it's hard to give good advice. But, from my experience with the "other mother" you have Pick your battles b/c if you love his guy and plan to marry him... then she's not going anywhere and neither are the issues you have. I had handle my ex's mother like a glass vase - when you need them, handle them with care.. if you don't need them, put them on the shelf and walk away. Know when to get and when not to get involved.

[sasad]

I agree with sparkling72. It seems like there is a piece missing somewhere..as a mom, and former military, I don't see her just going off on you for no reason? What happened to cause the anger from her?

[C.C.]

If your SO has no time to talk to her, maybe you can do it? Do not confront her but just ask what's wrong and what happened because you are genuinely wondering and concerned.

[Chris516]

Respecting our elders is one thing. But when the elder starts making threats, that changes things.

Your b/f has to stand up to his mother's threats.